If an abuser commits suicide and dies after his partner ditches and leaves him is the partner responsible for the abuser's death?

Answer 1

No, you should never feel obligated to tolerate abuse. If the abuser kills himself it's probably because he thought it would be another way to control you. There is a possibility that he didn't really expect to die in the process but figured he could force you to do something that you didn't want to do. Never accept the guilt trip that those type put on you. If someone is abusive, leave. It can be dangerous. Counselors in prisons will tell you that people who don't value their own life certainly have little regard for other lives either. If the abuser was willing to take his own life, your life was in danger and it was a good idea to get out of there. Abusive people are already psychologically damaged so they probably would have committed suicide with or without you having ever met him. Don't beat yourself up over this because you obviously tried your best, but no one expects another to be the victim of abuse. Abusive people have every chance to seek help and unfortunately this man didn't feel the need for it. If ANYONE accuses you of being the cause simply say, "Until you have walked in my shoes, don't judge!" Walk away, get away from such people. You have nothing to apologize or redeem yourself over.