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He obviously cares a lot for you, but be wary. If he is jealous when other guys talk to you or he wants to know where you are all the time or he doesn't like you to go out with girlfriends then it's a control issue and not so much protection (I'm not accusing him of this) but making you aware it's possible.

"You" have to give him the ultimatum to decide pretty quick if your relationship is good enough to settle down and perhaps marry and you should let him know that. Some guys are just terrified of marriage (isn't any different than living together for 6 months to a year when in many States and Canada you are considered the same as married). If marriage is what you want in the future tell him in your discussion that you can plan it together and it could be a small ceremony, or you could go somewhere you both like to get married and keep it really small. Try just sitting down and communicating and asking him how he feels about it all. If you don't like his answer tell him that if you love someone then you really want to be together for a future and you're not going to wait around as you've been going together long enough. Some men don't mean it, but they are so frightened of marriage they would rather just leave things as they are and not make a commitment. That doesn't mean they don't love the person.

If you want to see some fast action one way or the other give him a short time to make up his mind and if he doesn't then split-up from him and start going out with friends and dating. Sometimes people don't know how good they've got it until they've lost it and hopefully your boyfriend is one of these guys. By waiting around for him to decide (which could be never) you are robbing yourself of the future you want.

When I met my husband he was fairly shy at first. We'd gone together almost 4 years and he hadn't popped the question to me. We got along well and had so much fun. I discussed a future together and made it clear I was not the type of girl who wanted to live together and be tied down without commitment. He was evasive and uncomfortable regarding marriage. So, I split-up with him. It hurt my heart and I missed him so much, but it was a risk I had to take. The months dragged on and then 6 months later we were in the same wedding party. I thought my heart would pop out and roll across the carpet. I honestly didn't know how he felt. I'd been in the dating circuit again and obviously thought he had been, but he'd brought no one to the wedding and neither did I. It was only a week later he phoned me up and asked me out, but added "I'm still not ready for commitment." I said, "I still feel the same about commitment and you aren't going to get the milk free without buying this cow!" LOL He was stunned and he had a choice. Thank heavens he mustered up the courage to commit and we did get back together and after we went together another 3 months he got down on one knee and proposed marriage! I just wanted a quiet ceremony at the Justice of the Peace (for two reasons: I'd been married before and I also wanted to make the process of getting married less painful for him) and go on a nice honeymoontogether, but it was "my fiance" that wanted to be married in the Church Chapel and we had the best private wedding bash at his parent's home. The party was so good we didn't want to leave! LOL

I shared my above story because I know you are going to get the odd poster that will tell you to dump this guy, but some guys are just plain shy and scared of commitment and sometimes it takes a little time to convince them if you are sure you love each other. Marriage should be taken seriously. It's important for you to take the risk like I did and split-up so it gives you both time to know what you both want. Hopefully, your dreams will come true.

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