If you are 16 and do not like your father do you have to go to his house every other weekend for visitation?

Answer 1

First off you have to ask yourself why you hate your father. These are some reasons: Talks to you in an abusive manner when you have not instigated this behavior Hits you without a reason Is sexually abusive towards you Unless you can answer yes to one of the above, then it sounds to me that you feel you are old enough to "have your own way and not follow a set of rules." If this is the case, then get use to rules, because the world is full of them. I know it's tough to have your parents separated, and could you just be plain angry at your father for that? You have to be honest with yourself on this subject. Also, you are at the age where you are not quite a full grown man, yet not a child, so heads will butt like two mountain goats between fathers and sons while the son is trying to find his independence. Usually parents want to protect their kids because they love them and it's tough to let your kids go. It does come in time. Think about what I said, and if you still feel you don't want to see your father then it's time you had a talk with your mother and express your feelings (and the reasons had better be more than "he sets rules when I'm there.") That isn't a good enough reason to hate either of your parents. HATE is a strong word, so be careful how and where you use it. When your parents got divorced the courts gave custody of you to both of them. You have to talk to your mother and she will have to see a lawyer to have this changed. A judge will listen to why you don't want to see your father and decide from there. All States are different and I do believe you are still a minor, but, no one should force you to see someone you don't want to see. If you think you are very mature and independent then handle this as I have suggested above. Be fair as to why you hate your father and go from there. Good luck Marcy