If you have feelings for a friend thatshows mix emotions about his feeling you hook up with every now and thendoes he really care about me or does he really just want to be friends with benefits?

Answer 1

It's not mixed emotions on his part--he enjoys having sex with you but is fully aware that he doesn't have any romantic feelings for you. If he did, he would make it obvious that he wants to date you. He may tell you he "doesn't want/need a relationship" or that you mean more to him than just a friend because it's not in his interests to be honest with you. If he was fully honest with you--he enjoys the sex but has no interest in dating you--you'd be (rightfully) angry and upset and you might cut off the sex he's getting. Can you accept being only sex buddies? Will you accept the time when he no longer is interested in you sexually and starts dating someone else? Are you comfortable with being someone's backup or easy available option? This is not meant to be hurtful, but this is how he is treating you. It's not what a true friend acts. If you truly want to see how he feels, tell him, "I would like to be an actual relationship with you. Do you agree?" If he hedges or gives excuses, you know exactly where you stand with him.