Answer:
This is not an issue about wearing pantyhose, but it is an issue of control. My guess is that he also decides about your hair cut and clothing you wear. He may even tell you where you can go and when. This is all about controlling you and what you do and the pantyhose is just an item in that control. If I am right about this you need to decide for yourself what you need to do. If you want to wear the pantyhose, then do it.