If your husband sometimes tells you you need to lose some weight what should you do?

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well lets do it this way,,,if he loves u for who u r and not what u look like then it dont matter,,,now like i did with my husband, he wanted me to start doin my hair and puttin on my makeup,,,which after nineteen yrs i dont feel i need to impress him i already got him,,,,so what i tell him is this,,,i will do my hair and make myself look good only he will do the same thing, so if ur hubby has put on a few pounds himself like mine did i just told him i will do what i need to do look good again if he will loose the weight he gained and make himself look good again too, now if u gained the weight because of over eating show him u can try and then let him know the more he teases u the bigger u get,,,the less he teases u the smaller u'll get,,,just tell him u both need to do it together

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Take a good hard look in the mirror, both physically and emotionally. Do you really need to lose a few pounds? There is no shame in admitting it and only self love and respect in doing the right thing FOR YOURSELF if it's true. If you take off the extra weight you will feel better in so many ways. This should not be about your husband. But while we are on that subject, men are visual creatures and practical creatures. Your husband will feel loved if you do something PRACTICAL to please him VISUALLY. Instead of always thinking that a man is being sexist, selfish, or mean we womenfolk should try respecting and listening to our mates once in awhile. Let's face it. When we don't like something our spouse does, we don't mind complaining about it. Turn-about is fair play!

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Firstly, if he's requested it, then you have a problem and he doesn't find you sexually attractive.

Here are your options:

Losing weight is good for your health.

Doing so will ensure he doesn't stray.

Questions?

<now quit making excuses and get off the couch>

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Why don't you suggest that you pick up a healthy hobby. You'll get to spend time together and you'll both lose some weight (I'm sure he's no stud).

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Well, a better question is, do YOU feel like you need to lose weight and have you gained an unhealthy amount of weight (and he's concerned about it) or is he just being cruel and a control freak?

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How much different if your weight from when you got married? We marry the people we love and I am sure you are the same person but we also marry people we are attracted to and that does tend to change with time. You don't need to try to get to your wedding dress weight if that is not realistic but if your figure has changed a lot you might want to consider the affect on your health and attractiveness. I am sure he still loves who you are he probably just wants you to also still be bikini worthy, or at least limber enough to have some private fun. Pick up an active hobby that will help you lose weight and build some stronger muscle and you will feel better and look better and can demand that he do something equally tough for you.

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Lose the wieght then dump him for someone better. Hes a loser.

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You really need to understand why he said it. Ask him. My husband suggested weight loss to me because my weight literally doubled during pregnancy and taking it off afterward was slow and miserable. I was depressed about my size and my blood pressure went thru the roof. I honestly didn't do much to lose weight until he suggested it--but--he did it in a loving way. Your husband may only want whats best for you but doesn't know how to express that.

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