The puck must go in the net to be considered a goal.
no
I am pretty sure that a penalty shot is considered a shot on goal; however, shots from a shoot out do NOT count as a shot on goal.
NO
If the ball hits a defender's hand and goes into the goal then a goal is awarded. If, in the opinion of the referee, it was done deliberately then the defender would be cautioned. A send off would...
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