Is a wife who does not desire her husband supposed to starve herself sexually?

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If you no longer DESIRE your husband, then get a backbone and LEAVE. Because if you stay, you are hurting your husband and lying to yourself. You obviously don't love your husband anymore if you no longer DESIRE him. Don't confuse the fact that you may still CARE about your husband with you still being in love with him or with you still loving him. We all know that DESIRE includes physical attraction as much as it does love or affection. I'm sure you have many people in your life that you care about, but don't desire, am I right? Therefore, your husband now falls into that same category, only you care about him more than you care about anyone else in your life, that's all. So quit playing games and stop being a coward. It may be a scary thing to contemplate, and if you have been letting him take care of you financially, it can be doubly scary. (Although I don't understand why women don't just take care of themselves financially instead of expecting someone else to do it for them) But sticking your head in the sand is NOT going to resolve your dilemma. Face the truth about how you truly feel now that things have changed. AND be a decent person and sit your husband down, talk to him about how you no longer feel desire for him and TELL HIM that your marriage is over. Remember that in the end, it is you who are going to have to reconcile yourself with your own soul. continue to be hypocritical now, and you will just make things that much harder for yourself in the end.

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No. If you love someone, then you don't do things that. You know it will hurt them or put your relationship with them at risk. To say that people make mistakes is, to me, just a way of justifying bad and selfish behavior. Don't hurt people, don't drink and drive, don't kill, don't assault and don't rock the emotional foundation of their trust in you by cheating. Pretty simple. If that doesn't convince you, God gave us ten rules to live by, and not cheating on your spouse was on it.

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I know guys who love there wives but cheated. Is it right or wrong? If my girl had sex with some stranger that was hot and it was just sexual, it wouldn't hurt me as much as if she cared about him. Different cultures have different views. I choose not to sleep around myself, but if Nina Hartley said she'd sleep with me, I'd ask my girl first. The divorce rate may be a little lower if people would just lighten up a little. Making love to the one your heart belongs to is a lot different than a one night romp.

I think that it is possible that she still loves her husband and is just very confused or stressed, and she may be making bad decisions out of anger or fear.

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The first question is why doesn't she desire him? The truth, not excuses etc. If a husband truly loves his wife even under these circumstances, he can reignite the love in her by how he treats her, romancing her, etc. There are probably a lot of answers as to why this has happened but it can be changed through the wisdom of God and the humbling of each heart toward the other. The answer lies in getting close to God together but that is not always a popular answer but it is the only way.