"Wrong" is one of those words that don't seem to actually say much. Some religious traditions regard any form of sexuality except for man-on-top heterosexual intercourse for the purpose of having a child "wrong."
But as long as it's done safely and in keeping with the three basic rules of sex, it's not "wrong" -- it's fun! The three basic rules of sex are:
- Sex should be responsible -- that means you know what you're doing and you're prepared to deal with "accidents".
- Sex should be consensual -- both of you should want to do it, and both of you should know what "No" means, even if it happens right in the middle of the action. And no seduction, and no making promises you don't intend to keep.
- Sex should be equal -- you should both enjoy it. If only one of you is having a good time, you're doing something wrong.
If you're doing bondage, there are a few other rules: nothing around the neck. Nothing tight enough to cut off circulation -- if the bound person starts to feel something "tingly", like when your foot goes to sleep, something's too tight! And NEVER leave a person tied up with no one watching them. There are exceptions, of course, but you can't do them until you know ...
- what to do if someone faints, or panics
- what to do if someone starts bleeding badly
- what to do if someone sprains a muscle, etc.
And you have to be willing to call for help or go to the emergency room if necessary. If you can't explain what happened, you're not ready to do it!
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