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Is that bond between a man and a woman something that a man and a man can have? |
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Since I don't know you personally, I can't presume to know what you are or are not capable of.
However, I do believe that two men (or two women) most certainly can form a deep, loving bond. Love just happens, you don't choose who you fall in love with.
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Well, I'm not homosexual but I have had friends who are. One gay couple I have known, before they moved away, I really loved them. Such GOOD people. I wish they didn't move. Those two have been together for nearly 10 years now. If they had any serious issues, I never noticed. They seemed to be VERY happy and VERY close. They care and love one another. They are happier than some heterosexual couples I have seen. I also know that they would make outstanding parents should they come across a child by whatever means.
I think you have the same odds as anyone else, gay or straight. I really believe that.
Not sure that this helps, but straight people don't always find that either. Many hope to just like you do.
I know that there are some celeb gay couples who have been together for what seems like decades.
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No, it isn't the same thing. Men can have strong bonds of friendship with each other, but they can never compare to the full potential of happiness a husband and wife can have together.
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The first answer is false. Love IS a choice. Infatuation is not a choice. Lust is not a choice. Love is when you care about another person more than you care about yourself. Infatuation is a counterfeit love, and lust is physical desire.
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The above answer is absolutely absurd and makes no sense at all. The person who wrote it is very confused and narrow minded.
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Love is indeed blind. It does not recognize race, religion, or gender. While we may dream of falling in love with Prince Charming or a Supermodel or whatever, in reality it rarely works out that way. And really, why would anyone 'choose' to fall in love with someone of the same sex and put up with all of the bigotry, intolerance, homophobia and irrational hatred that exists when it would be so much easier and far less hurtful to just fall in love with a 'proper' partner.
[Comment: Since he claims that love's a choice that's proof for him that it's not love between homosexuals. And in part love IS a choice. Though if he thinks he loves the PERSON he's mistaken; He's in love with doing the proper thing. Which mainly comes down to the same thing of course.]
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Infatuation may not be voluntary but you can 'certainly' contain and control it.
Lust is simply infatuation taken one step further. Anyone with even a little bit of self-control and restraint can keep their base instincts in check. This is one of things that separate us from lower forms of life; we are not animals.
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My husband and I are happily married (we are heterosexual) and have been for a long time. We've been lucky. During the course of our own marriage we've watched friends get married, and we've watched many of their marriages fall apart. But the only couple I know who has been together nearly as long as we have and who appear to be as happy as we are, is an old [male] friend of mine and his partner.
They are closer than most married couples I know, they are best friends, and they love each other very much.
They are also discreet, they don't flaunt their relationship because of all of the narrow minded people out there who don't have anything better to do than concern themselves with what goes on in other people's bedrooms - which if you ask me is more unnatural and perverse than a same sex couple!
What's more neither of my friends look or act even the least bit gay. You would never know. They only publicly display affection among their close friends and I think it is very sweet, because you can see then how much they love each other.
So, based on what I've seen personally, yes, two men can and do share that deep bond you speak of. In fact, given the number of failed marriages I've had the misfortune to see, I'd have to say the bond can be even deeper than that between a man and woman
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Yes, it is. I have an uncle who has been with his partner for 10 years or more, they have very few issues, and are very happy together. I also have an aunt who left her husband after a not-so-great relationship and started one with a woman. They have also been together for a very long time, and have less issues and problems than the previous relationship that my aunt was in. It's ridiculous to think that two men or two women couldn't experience the same love as a man and a woman. You can't chose who you love, and just because you love someone of the same gender doesn't make you any less of a person than if you you love someone of a different gender. Anyone who tells you otherwise is closedminded and pigheaded. I'm a 15 year old girl and even I know that!
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No way..... The Bible says that women were made for men, not men made for men or women for women. Gay or lesbian relationships are unnatural.
[Comment: Well they ARE unnatural since they can't lead to reproduction. If they were natural there'd be just as many homos as heteros. Whether they are HARMFUL or even EVIL is an entirely different matter however.]
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There is always someone who mentions what the bible says. It is outdated and thankfully not the law. Yes two men or two women can have the same bond as between a man and a woman.
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