Is your wife cheating if she doesn't want sex but wants to be friends?

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I'm a woman myself and I would have to say yes. Sometimes feelings for your spouses do change without being provoked like if she is showing signs of being very unhappy, but mostly it's because of cheating.

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While the other poster could be correct, I disagree. Relationships are complex and you didn't say what age bracket you are in. When women/men turn 40+ a woman starts her peri menopause and a man starts into Andropause. It's all about hormones. This is the time in a couples lives when they reflect back on youth, wonder if they have done things right and wish they could go back with the knowledge they have now and do it all over again, and also dislike the fact they are getting older. They feel time is running out and they have so many things they want to do to make a mark on this world, but damn! They just don't know what it is! LOL I know, because I'm over 60 and I've had those feelings and can still have those feelings. Sex changes as well when we go through this time of our life. It doesn't mean our sexual prowess is doomed, we are just in a slump. Sometimes it's a good idea for the wife to go away on a vacation and see a little of the world around her and I don't mean she should take off and cheat. Sometimes just going away to clear one's head is a good idea. The same applies to you.

Since your wife wants to be friends she isn't saying she doesn't want to live with you and she may not even know how to express herself. As a woman having gone through peri menopause and menopause I can honestly say I went a little crazy around that time, but, never cheated on my husband. I will be honest in saying I did entertain the idea, but laughed at myself because I had no idea who I would want to cheat with. I am a person of honor and I'm straight up in my thinking so I would never sneak behind my husband's back. If I wanted to see another man I might be interested in I would sit my husband down and express my feelings. However, that's me and not your wife. Nonetheless you have to sit down and start communicating. Women generally are pretty darn blunt. If she wanted to leave you she would have told you so. Sit, talk and let her express her feelings and then you express your own. I honestly don't think she's cheating, but, if you don't start sitting down as two intelligent spouses she could well leave or, she could cheat.