Should a 14-year-old keep a baby or consider adoption?

Answer 1

Absolutely consider adoption! A 14 year old is not only too young to give a baby a good life, but she has her whole life ahead of her. She needs to finish school, go to college, and do what she needs to do to achieve her dreams. If the girl keeps the baby, chances of her using public assistance are very high.

Think about the couple who would get this baby in an adoption. Chances are they wanted children of their own and just couldn't for whatever reason. A baby would be the best gift a couple could have and the 14 year old girl can choose to make it an open adoption so she can have contact over the years to see how the baby is doing.

AnswerThere is a strong temptation for a young mother to keep her child. The simple reality is, the maternal instinct is strong. Recognize that the feeling is an emotional response to a problem that should be dealt with at an intellectual level.

First, when a child is adopted he/she is only put in a home that has the resources to adequately care for the child.

Second, the child will do far better having both a mother AND a father as roll models. Children learn how to be adults by watching the parents. Often a young man learns how to be an adult male by watching how his father handles issues. How did he treat his wife? How did he provide for his family? Was he violent? Was he there for the family? In the absence of a roll model for these traits, the young man will learn from other young men who have no idea of what the real world is like.

Third, the MOTHER�S life will be negatively affected if she keeps the child. It pretty much limits her future options. Any man who would be able to provide for her wouldn�t want to raise someone else�s child. Her only option will be to accept the attention of the young men who have nothing to offer. She will be stuck with a looser and any FUTURE children will learn from HIM.

We all make mistakes in life, the question becomes, did we learn anything in the process? If we don�t learn, we are little more than the animals which live almost entirely by instinct. If we don�t solve our problems from an intellectual level, what use is our brain. After all, the only thing that really distinguishes us from the animals is our intellect.

Teen Pregnancy AnswerOf couse not, you don't want your baby to suffer. Your baby might love their adopted parents but it makes them think a lot. They want to know who they are and what you are like and why you put them up for adoption. I was adopted in 1992, in an adoption agency called LDS Social service. I am 13 and I love at least my mom and older sister but every day I ask myself, whats my birthmothers name, is she pretty, what is she like, does she remember me, does she hate me does she think of me? And there are a lot more questions then that my friend!! So, do what ever but you might regret it, even if you are 14 years old. ANSWERI am an adoptee that was given up in 1973, I have since found my birth mother but am searching for my birth father. The question of whether or not to give a child up is a very personal one & only you can answer that for yourself. If you strongly feel you cannot care for a child & be the best possible mother for that child then you may want to consider adoption. However if you want to always know that your child is OK & be able to communicate with your child if they so choose then you may want to consider an open adoption, in which you will meet the birth parents & they will meet you & you can stay in touch with them & get updates about your child. But it is true, that as an adoptee you always wonder who had you, where you came from, was that her that just passed me on the sidewalk, do I look like anyone, why wasn't I loved, why did she hate me so much that she gave me away, and so on and so on. I had the absolute best adoptive parents but it never stopped those feelings from seeping in....there is an inborn fear of abandonment in all adoptees. And now that I know my birth mom I know it was best that she gave me up, she was 16 & could not have rasied me as well as my parents have, nor would I have had all of the opportunities that I have had in life, I am grateful that she loved me enough to want the best for me & give me up so I could have it. Even though I was a closed adoption I was able to find her & I am glad that I did, she has been in my life now for 14 years!

my personal answer is I believe if you are having sex at any age you should keep the baby it would be wrong to give your baby up if you know you could take care of it,you play you pay as simple as that