Should a separated father of 2 have play dates with a divorced female friend and her daughter when father's children have not been told about divorce and female friend is a potential love interest?

Answer 1

A father of 2 beautiful children from god should not have play dates with any other woman. It says it in The Bible that the couple that had split, shall not get married to another PERSON unless their ex- husband/wife has passed on and into the lords hands. Also you sould tell your children about your divorce or at least ex-plain it to them to let them know that you and their father are having difficulty in your life and you need space. Here are some ways to explain it to them,

• First you should sit them down and see if they are doing well in any activity.
• Then you should compliment them.
• Then you should explain about divorce and tell them that you and their father are having trouble.

AnswerNO. Finish one relationship before beginning another. The children will wonder why their parent is cheating on the other parent. Separated people shouldn't even be entertaining the idea of a relationship. The children should be left out of their separated or divorced parents' relationship problems or pursuits.

Another viewpoint:

If you and your wife are legally separated, with no plans or chance of reuniting, then it is ok for you to date, but don't involve your children in your dates. Your kids are going through a very confusing time already, so for them to see Daddy with another woman AND another child will only confuse and hurt them more. They may see it as Daddy replacing them with a "new family". This can apply to older kids, as well as the younger ones.

If, after your divorce is final, you still have a romantic interest in this woman, then let your children get to know her and her daughter slowly. Otherwise, they may feel you are forcing her and her child on them, which can result in them being resentful, and even blaming the woman for you and their mother not being together anymore.

Your first priority should be your children's welfare, stability, and happiness. If you put those things first, then your children will feel much more secure and happy, and you will have a much better chance of things working out well with the new woman when the time is right. Besides, few things can wreck a new relationship worse than children who are resentful of the new person in their parent's life.