Should kids be having sex at ages 11-17?

And in most places in the world, having sex under the age of 16 is considered illegal.

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I think the biggest issue here would be how responsible these so-named "kids" are (this answer applies only to 15-and-up for me; personally, I wouldn't allowhttp://wiki.answers.com/Q/Should kids be having sex at ages 11-17&action=edit my 14-and-below children to have sex).

Personally, I'd allow my 15-to-17-year-old kids to have sex IF and ONLY IF they were able to show responsibility by using PROTECTION, RESPECTING their partner, and otherwise being as-responsible-as-possible about the whole sex thing. My catchphrase would be: "Have fun, just don't get pregnant (or get anyone pregnant), or somebody's going to get a hurt REAL bad." (And yes, before you ask, I am someone who's a firm believer in physical discipline. Sending them to their rooms is NOT discipline.)

And those of you who are so firmly saying "NOOOOO!" to this question should take a minute to remember that in the United States, some states have an Age of Consent as low as 17 (notably Texas, Colorado, Nebraska to name only a few), 16 (notably Nevada, Oklahoma, Kansas, Mississippi, Alabama, and many more), and 14 in Arkansas for a male (16 for female).

You might also like to know that in many, many commonwealth countries, it's as low as 14 (Germany (Males), Hungary, Italy and more), or even 13 (Spain). So clearly these "morals" of yours that you mercilessly attempt to ram down other people's throats really are a relative thing, it seems, otherwise the AOC would be 18 all over the world (and all over the United States, for that matter).

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Speaking from personal experience (I started having sex at 14, with a girl who was also 14) that as long as you and your girlfriend have decided that what you want then go for it. I had a lot of fun but always had the sense to stay safe, wrap it up, and make sure that if she said stop, I stopped. To say that all kids 11-15 "don't have the mental stability for sex" is too general. While I definitely agree that 11,12 and 13 is REALLY REALLY young. 14-15 is when the gray area starts and I feel like if you can be responsible than you'll be OK, I turned out just fine.

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I'm 14 and I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and we just started having sex. I think if you are in a relationship with someone for a long time and you love them you can. I mean we us protection all the time without a doubt, but I wouldn't with out using protection.

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"...It is better to marry than to burn with passion." 1 Corinthians 7:9

Ever wonder why the Bible never talks about an age of consent? It's not hard to see what the border between boyhood and manhood is... and what the border between girlhood and womanhood is. It's biologically designed in us. Why is it that God made us want members of the opposite sex at puberty? Why is it that the human body is ready to have children at that time? Why is it that we claim they aren't mature enough to take care of them at that time, but we see 25 and 30 year olds who aren't mature enough yet? Are we wise? I think not. It is better to be joined. Historical and current personal application shows that it builds character... responsibility... strength... work ethic... things we lack in this generation. Instead we make things harder on them... throwing out our children... "pushing them out of the nest." This is not wisdom. This is not Word of God.

This is not all the Bible has to say on this... but is anyone listening? Wouldn't you rather listen to Saint Jerome, Saint Augustine, Pope Innocent the Third, John Calvin, and such people as them? They have been listened to long enough! Let us let the Word of God speak... and stop heaping heavy burdens upon our children, not lifting a single finger to help them. They rebel against the Word of God because of your traditions! Do not tone down the word of God, and do not make it a heavy burden. The word of God is what it is. "Do not add to it, lest you be found a liar." Proclaim it, and let it be! http://wiki.answers.com/Q/User:SadanYagci 20:01, 4 Jan 2008 (UTC)

I should probably add that I am not saying men and women should just sleep around. I am saying that when a man desires a woman and a woman desires a man it is best for them to marry before those desires get too strong. However, I do not agree with "marriage traditions" going on these days. They act as if a priest or judge joins two people together before God and man... when God joins two people, not us. They act as if rings and government papers are what makes the marriage, when that is untrue. As one man said, ""What God has joined let man not separate" but what is joined by that ceremony?" History proves that that is not what joins. The Bible proves that is not what joins... for a man is joined to a prostitute, though they have had no wedding. That is why sex brings children. You have given part of yourself to her... and she has conformed over you. You become one, and a family is the result.

What is required for marriage? Family permission (to protect the girl from sick men) and the joining. If there is no one to give the bride, then it is only the joining... so yes, you who have slept with a thousand men are joined to them all, and are in adultery... and you who have slept with women already joined to another, are an adulterer. You may ask, 'but what if we aren't sexually compatible? If sex joins how can I know if we are compatible before we join?' Take a look at history... take a look at studies on the subject of marriage and such. If arranged marriages work better than ones out of love, then where does your "sexual compatibility" come in? If marriage worked out at a greater percentage in the old days... do you not think that maybe the new ideas should be thrown away? They do not bring happiness... though some are happy in them. Most of the time our new theories about how things should work end only in pain.

Someone brought up Teen Pregnancy. I find nothing wrong with this, if she has a husband that will take care of her. So many times in history do you see young girls having children. You even see it these days in some places. They can take care of their children. They DO take care of their children. However, our culture makes things harder for them. Instead, why not help them? Those that are poor, give to them from your excess. Those that are stretched beyond their limits with working, give your time to help them with their children. Help them not rely on daycare (which has been proven to cause worse behavior in children). All families struggle, and poverty is not limited to teen parents. Instead of throwing rocks, teach them what is right and good, and give them what they need, that their family may stand strong. So they started building up their family before you think they should have. The end result is the same... a family.

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The truth of the matter is that having sex at such a young age is unnecessary, especially at anything below 16. They don't even know what they are doing! Even so, sex at an age still below 18 is still not a good idea-it's called pregnancy. Not even the condom can 100% protect you. There are STD's and a lot of other nonsense. Not to be preachy, but really the best thing to do, even though you may not want to is honestly wait until your married, or at least in a relationship you're sure of, but even that's not full proof.

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Sex and educating your children is important, but can't believe my ears that anyone under 16 a parent would agree with enabling sex. You can't stop teens from having sex, but you don't have to agree.

By the way before anyone blames Canada for the law of children 14 having sex citizens didn't get to vote on that one and our government at that time must have been on crack! We are now fighting hard to have this age changed!

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No they should not. It's immoral to commit such a serious act that lightly and that soon. Best wait until marriage.

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If you are using the word "kids," then they should not be having sex. Simple as that. Sorry for such a short answer, but somebody erased all the previous responses, including my first one, so I don't feel like writing all I did last time. But his answer before was inappropriate, so I am writing this.

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I don't agree with "if their having sex so young parents haven't done there job". I had sex education and had my little chats with my mum. You can't lock up your child and tell him or her not to have sex because they are just looking at you as if you are a bore and don't understand them. To me you tell them it is wrong to have sex so young and basically tell them what the actual law about having sex under 16 is illegal. Also, parents should be emphasizing contraception tell them the advantages and disadvantages of the type of contraception. It isn't just that if you do not use contraception you could get pregnant it is the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and HIV which is the killer of all STDs!!

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If an 11 year old is having SEX the parents are not doing their job. The parents should be on their kids like white on rice! If you are trying to be your kid's best friend instead of learning to say 'no, these are the rules as long as you are a minor and living with us' then you are an enabler.

No one can stop a young person from having sex, but 11 is absolutely ridiculous. Even at 16 teens don't know what they are doing and most would fail a test on sex and the do's and don'ts.

At 11 - 15 (and up to 18) the individual is not physically or mentally prepared for sex and can get themselves into a lot of trouble such as an unwanted pregnancy or worse yet, a sexually transmitted disease.

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Young people stay safe and free until marriage and then you will feel the happy and wonderful ways sex really feels and you will be free of disease and there are a lot of foul ones out here in the world all because people will not do it the bible way and it is not just the young that will not listen but the older ones to of all ages, so stay clean and fresh and you will be blessed with the best, so do not let the flesh get the best of you can win and stay free from this sin of sex outside of marriage.

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You can say what you want to say, that's it is bad at such a young age, which I agree with to a certain extent, but the thing you say won't stop it. I'm 17 and pretty much 80% of my friends, including myself and people I know my age and even as young as 14 have had sex and I highly doubt that's going to change any time soon... a blunt way to put it is kids are just to horny these days.

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I think it will be really wrong to have sex at a really young age and if you do have sex at 11 that will put a lot of pressure on your parents and you do not want that to happen these are all the things they will do: ignore you maybe send you to adoption send you to a family member that can take more care of you, get an abortion when not wanted, or even wait till the baby is born them send that baby to adoption or family member until you are ready to take care of it. But by that time it will be as big as you, but I'm only 11 and I really want to have sex because I see in pornography that it looks like they're having fun and it feels good, but it still doesn't give me the right to have sex right now.

Also, there are boys out there that don't know they have a disease and don't use protection and then you will have the virus. You have to watch out for guys that will stand up for you such as saying that they love you and care for you and will never do anything to hurt you, but as soon as you have sex he breaks up with you and call you dirty names and then it will probably be spread around schools and neighborhoods then it ends up getting to your parents and you will be in serious trouble. I almost fell for that but I always get right back up on my two feet and think twice before I do anything.

I still have doubts but I'm not really sure what to do and when I get near a boy I go with or even if I hug them I feel a sexual feelings like I just want to jump all over him and kiss and stuff. Then I think twice and walk away or something. Later on I regret it saying in my head I should have done something or should have had sex with him. I'm not sure what to do.

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