Should you get into a serious relationship with a woman that you know participated in group sex with a large number of men?

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I have no idea why you would want too. It depends if you want an honest and loving relationship then she isn't for you. Women worth anything don't cheapen themselves this way. If a young woman was forced to have group sex (raped) this is entirely a different story.

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I participated in group sex where there was one woman and a bunch of guys. There is no way in hell that I would ever have a relationship with her. In the back of my mind, I'd be concerned that she was always thinking about it or wanting more. I'd never do it with someone I cared about. Not to mention what happens when she bumps into this group of guys again.

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If she really changed her habits then yes I would, otherwise no way. and if I was in love with someone who did that sort of thing I still wouldn't go out with her. I have too much respect for my body, and she has none for hers, so it won't work out.

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I couldn't help but hear the biases in the previous answers. Having group sex doesn't make you a dishonest person. That she was willing to admit to unpopular, stigmatized actions makes her a very courageous, honest person. While I can´t speak to the self-worth of this particular woman, having group sex is a lifestyle choice, and if it is done consensually and safely, there is no problem with it. Answerer number two assumes that this woman has low self-control. This is a harmful stereotype. There is no way to conclude anything about the woman´s self-control, or even her current sexual preferences, based on the information given. Maybe she tried it once and didn't´ like it, and doesn't want to do it again. Maybe she tried it and liked it, but for other reasons has decided that she now wants a serious relationship with one person. To the questioner, if you have strong feelings for this woman, and have open and honest communication with her, and she has been tested for std´s, there is no reason why you should not become seriously involved with her.

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I agree with much of the above poster with the exception of the last sentence. The young man asking the question deserves a good opinion and I'm not putting down the young woman, but nine chances out of ten this young man isn't into group sex. He deserves the best answer we have and the males that answered this question hit the nail on the head. The men use her and abuse her even if she and the group of men are consensual. With the high risk of sexually transmitted disease people in group sex are playing with fire. I do say 'each to their own' and it's private, but this young man asked for our advice. By making excuses for this young woman's behavior one is enabling her behavior and one day it's going to cost her a great relationship with a really great guy (probably like the person asking the question.)

First answer by Marcy. Last edit by Jenniferjennifer. Contributor trust: 50 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 74 [recommend question]

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