Can you love your best friend when their the same sex?

Answer 1

Once you've told them there's no going back. Sometimes it's better to be a friend than a lover. Friendships (hopefully will last forever) but a lover may only last a week, a month, a year and then what? Think long and hard you don't want to lose them or their friendship.

Answer 2

Oh boy! This is a tough one. You sound like a nice guy, and love takes all sorts of twists and turns. It's to your best interest to tell your girlfriend and be honest. Yes, it will hurt her. If you haven't been seeing her girlfriend (I sure hope not) then perhaps her friend doesn't feel the same about you. So, to cut to the chase this is what you have to do: #1 Does your girlfriend's friend care about you. #2 If you haven't told your girlfriend's friend about your feelings the best advice is to walk on by and don't break-up a good friendship here. #3 Be honest with your girlfriend. Staying with her knowing how you feel is taking her dignity away and you're losing validity in yourself. Good luck Marcy

Answer 3

You can and if she is a good friend she will try to understand however you cant make her homosexual if she is not, and you may be risking the friendship.

The chance of any random person being gay is small. On the other hand, that could have been the thing that made you identify with them. I suppose that would be very lucky for you if it were to have been the case. if your friend knows your gay and is very close to you in a physical way then you might have something different going on there. You then might want to say something if you think something might work between the two of you. Say something like " I've noticed something different about you but in a good way" or you can say " Maybe it's just me but I feel like something is different between us" and if she asks "like what" I would say "well I just notice how we are like together compared to our other friends". Then see where it goes from there because by saying thing's like that can make it so that if you get a bad vibe from her then you can just play it off saying" oh okay just checking" once you figure out that it isn't right.

If she doesn't know that you like girls and you like her perhaps watching a TV show or movie that delicately touches the theme of homosexuality, and guaging your friend's response, would allow you to discover their feelings on the subject. What you find out may hurt you. On the other hand you may discover that they are empathetic and maybe even sympathetic. I also think that coming out about your sexual inclinations should be a prerequisite to your telling them how you feel about them. If you come out first and they are also gay, then I think the rest might be automatic.

Another point to think about is that even if you and your friend were to enter this type of relationship, that itself could ruin your friendship if it doesn't work out.

I would say that your journey of discovery should be handled with the ultimate tact and delicacy.

Answer 4

Dear friend, If you are ready to begin this new relationship with her then go for it! But if she doesn't feel that way and it would ruin your friendship, then i would wait to see how she feels about you. remember you're a star! From Dr.Rowoul Kimuchio