Started dating him during his divorce and four months later I have told him I love him and he said he thinks it all the time but is uneasy about saying it?

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I think that if someone loves you they say it...if they don't, then they don't say it. I was married for 15 years before we got divorced and my husband rarely said it to me in the beginning of our relationship, and it only got worse as time went on. He cheated on me numerous times throughout the marriage and I'm not sure he ever really DID love me. I just think that if this guy really loved you, wouldn't he feel HAPPY to say it to you, especially if you just said it to him? There's a lot of good advice underneath this answer about timeframes, etc....But if you're asking does he love you now? I'd say, no, or he'd say it. It's also probably difficult because you started dating as he was getting a divorce. That's no good for either of you, trust me....I've been through it. Even if he is coming out of a divorce, he probably would seem MORE in love with you because he's getting over the bad marriage. I'd run girl....That's just my opinion. Guys who shift when you tell them you love them are bad news.

Hey I'm Danielle and i'm here to help. I don't beleive there is a time limit. It's just when you both feel ready. So instead of me saying on your 6th date say I LOVE YOU. Don't make it strict like that and just say it when you are ready to say it and you believe she is ready to hear it. GOOD LUCK

I would say to wait at least several weeks if not longer, it will take time to get to know someone and see if you really do love all of them and are willing to say it or if you are just in love with some of them because you haven't taken enough time to get to know all of them. Go easy, make sure before you commit to it.

dont wait to long or you will get into the friend stage. that is very hard to get out of. make sure you have an emotional or sexual connection before you ask her out, and when you get the connection ask her out, or you will miss hte window of opportunity.

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it's not about how long you wait...it's about when you are ready and how certain you are. Don't tell them that you love him/her if you are not certain. Be sure that it is love, and not infatuation. Love is often "misunderstood" by many. All i can say is..be certain that it's love.

i say wait for awhile and make sure that you're really in love.

if you arent and you are always telling eachother, "i love you" you will wind up BREAKING up and you will be CRUSHED. trust me...its happened to me before. :[[

Hi. There is not a time limit on love. I believe in love at first sight. But be careful. If you are younger it could be just a crush. A lot of people say wait three months of six months. But when you feel it it is right. Sometimes it happens very fast after starting to date some one esspcially if you were friends, hung out in the same group or have known eachother for a long time. My boyfriend said I love you to me after six days of officially being boyfriend and girlfriend. I felt it after two. We went to high school togther and hung out for hours on end alone before officially dating though. Wehung out with our fronds and shared a lot of common interests. He said I love you to me andthen later added that he realized it may be too early and that he did not expect me to say it back but he wanted to be honest about how he felt about me. We have now been together eight and a half months been though some tough times but everytimw it gets hard I try try to remember that first time he AAU I love you and the great times like that. So just remember to not say it unless you know in your heart it is true. You can always say how much you like a gurloe I really care about you without saying that you love her and it van be just as sweet

Hey, you should say it when you mean it. I was told once by a good friend when i asked her how do you know your in love and she told me "you know your in love when you never question whether or not you truly love that person" hope this helped man.

Me and my bf were together for a little over a month when he told me he loved me and i didnt say it back because i wasnt sure. he continued to say it all the time and i felt bed for not saying it back, he began to question my feelings because i wouldnt say it back so i told him how i felt and he was very understanding on our 3month annivarsary i said it i waited that long to make sure i meant it, we tell eachother all the time now and i love him more than anything. i think you know your in love when someone asks you "well how do you feel about them?" and you just cant find the words to explain it, when you think about them every second you r not with them or talking to them, when you see someone else and you immediately compare them to your someone thats when i knew i was in love you dont have to say it until you mean it even if they say it explain to them how you feel and why your not saying it yet if they dont understand or they arent willing to wait then maybe they had the problem understanding their feelings

GOOD LUCK <3<3 Amanda.

Hey my name is SkinnyB!tch and here is what i think about your question. Its not the matter of time that counts when it comes to love, its the matter of how pure and true it is. Only your heart can tell you how you really feel about that person. I think you should tell the person your dating that you love him/her only when you truly feel it. And i don't mean the kind of "luv u" you say over the text or when you say bye to each other. I mean the type of "I love you" you say just when you feel like it, when you hold the person and look him/her straight in the eye and say it with the greatest confidence that no little thing can reassure. That is how to truly say i love you.

Like everyone else has previously stated, its not restricted to a set limit of time. In certain situations its different. My girlfriend didn't tell me she loved me until our three month either, but her reason was because she wasn't sure she loved me. I was completely understanding of that. I love her more today because she waited. However, some people know right away that they love a person, and others don't know for years. My mother married my father. They met in 7th grade and were best friends. During senior prom they went with different people, however at the end of the night my mother and father were dancing and she just blurted it out. So you see, you don't even have to date someone to KNOW you love them.

wait untill your ready. and you think she or he is readyto hear it. when you are ready say I LOVE YOU that simple. if she or he laughs then ignore them. keep on saying I LOVE YOU and keep on ignore the laugh. then he or she should start realising you do love him or her then DATE. GOODLUCK

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I think you fall to a sweet guy who don't keep on saying on how much he loves you but keep on showing it through his actions. That is very sweet.

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