That is a huge catagory. A couple concepts are that both parents are generally expected to work full time, if able and unless this conflicts with child care, and provide financially for children....
All these words are usually defined in the divorce decree, assuming there is a divorce involved and the words are used. Everything is usually particularly defined in that decree, including medical...
If it's your money, yes, but you will have to go through their appeals process first. If that doesn't resolve the problem, you may then sue the State in the circuit courts.