What can you do when an abusive father threatened you to give up custody and now refuses to follow the court order to give you visitation rights and any placement?

Answer 1

Answer You are a mother ... fight!!!!! You can seek out legal counsel and go to court to fight for the rights of your children. If your ex has any record of abuse against you or your children (or both) you can fight this in a court of law and get either partial or hopefully full custody of your child(ren). If you can't afford legal counsel then seek out your local Women's Abuse Centers (you can go to Mental Health or your local law enforcement agency and ask them where these centers are) and fight through them. They have people who will help you fight for your rights in court to get your children back .......... OR When your ex keeps forcing you to give up custody he is breaking the law! Seek out legal advice and if necessary (and you have proof) go to the media for help. People don't take kindly to any man (or woman) being abusive with the other partner or children involved.

Answer 2

That's what courts are for. You should seek legal advice from an attorney or ask to speak with an advocate at the family court with jurisdiction over your case. You haven't mentioned what orders he refuses to follow. If the father refuses to take the child for his scheduled visits there's not much you can do. If it involves significant violations such as not returning the child from visits on time or trying to take the child at unscheduled times or refusal to pay child support then you need to note the following and take action.

Court orders must be obeyed. The father's refusal to follow court orders is of serious concern since the laws and the courts do not matter to him. That should send up a red flag for your safety and the child's safety. His refusal to obey the court orders must be reported to the court for every time it happens. He will eventually lose his visitation rights but you need to be well prepared to deal with his reaction in that case. It cannot be emphasized strongly enough that you need to stay on top of this situation and not allow it to continue. He is trying to control your life and that is a dangerous situation for you.