File a response, hire an attorney, for more information see steveshorr.com
There are links to the forms that you need in CA. Other states are probably similar
Yes, until modified. They should have done it on their own, so she has told them that she is not getting anything from you, or know where you are. Have you spoke with them about getting custody? go...
yes
Petition the court or Child Support Services in your area.
No. Courts routinely award child support in cases where the parents have joint custody.
Yes, but you will need the court's approval to deny support.
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