He same if you did it instead. Most states are no fault.
If your husband has broken off the affair with the mistress then your husband should do the right thing and pay child support, but that does not mean you have to accept the child into the family. If the mistress does not want the child then it is up to you whether you want to help to raise that child. If your husband is still seeing his mistress then pack his bags and kick him out and either file for a separation or divorce.
i would tell the husband its 'me or her' and let him choose!!
Since your husband got the mistress pregnant this is good grounds for divorce. Your husband is entirely responsible for paying child support and this is called being responsible for your own actions. Your husband is fully to blame as he either started the affair or he could have said no to the woman. Therefore, the mistress who is pregnant has every right to keep her child. Your husband has created a great deal of pain for you or any children involved in your family; he lied and disrupted your lives and cost the most precious thing of all ... trust in each other. Most people who cheat will do it again.
no you cant sorry
If your husband made one mistake in having an affair and has not cheated before that or after the affair then the child is part of him and also the biological mother. You have two options: #1 You can accept the child when and if he has custody of the child and make that child part of the whole family or #2 let him see his child if he wants too (he at least should pay child support) but see the child away from home. The decision will have to be discussed between you and your husband.
If you're asking yourself whether you could have pushed your husband to have an affair with a married woman, the answer is "no." You simply do not have that power. Instead, it was a series of poor choices your husband made that most likely led to the affair. For instance, he decided to look outside the marriage for something he apparently needed. He decided to have an affair. He decided to ignore the marital vows of both your marriage, and those of the married couple's wife whom he had an affair with. So in short, don't blame yourself for your husband's behavior. He's not a child, and you are not responsible for his actions. That said, marital discord is very rarely, if ever, a single sided occurrence. Both parties are responsible for the maintenance of the marriage.
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Your husband has the right to raise the baby if he is the father. By law a man needs to support that child till he or she turn legal age. The only question now is, if your husband knows about the child will he leave you and move in with his mistress and his baby. He is in a big mess right now if that baby is his..
If you are still married, then telling the husband is the best thing to do, since it will come out in the end. The name of the child is the least of the problem--just do what makes sense in the long run for the child.
In most states, a child born in wedlock (to a legally married couple) is presumed to be the child of the husband. Legally, the court recognizes that the husband is the father of the child and will not initiate any action which will separate the parent/child relationship without a very good reason for doing so. Consult an attorney if you wish to be a part of the child's life however; it is generally in the best interest of the child to not have his/her life disturbed after six years of knowing her mother's husband as her daddy. Please consider your options from the perspective of this beautiful child.
No, a man does not always get custody. If one of the people in a marriage has an affair, it is usually the person not having an affair that gets custody of the child or children.For example, if the husband is having an affair, and the wife wants a divorce, the woman (wife) would get the custody of the child or children, and not the man (husband). This is the same vice versa, too.
Leave him and her behind. If they wanted to be with each other they should have come to you and told you about their affair and not keep it in the dark. Seek a lawyers advice on divorce. Your marriage to me is not salvageable because of the length of the affair and the fact that there is now a love child involved.