What could I do when I am in a fight with my best friend and she won't forgive me?

Answer 1

First, apologize for what happened. Admit your wrongs. If she does not forgive you, give her space for a while then try again. If she does not forgive the second time she is just being ignorant. To solve that is to leave her alone and just wait for her to realize that SHE is making it worse. And if she does not forgive you than maybe just maybe she not your friend. Because friends will always forgive each other no matter what happens

A bit more:

Since you said your friend won't forgive you, I assume that means you are the one who did something to cause the fight, or did something that hurt her. If so, it's normal for her to want some space for a while. When a person is hurt by a friend, it's normal for them to feel betrayed or feel they can't trust you, depending on what your "offense" was.

For now, give her a sincere, heartfelt apology. If she won't talk to you so that you can give her the apology in person, write her a letter. It can be an email, but NOT a text message, which would seem too impersonal and insincere. In the letter, admit your fault and accept your responsibility for what happened, and tell her how very, very sorry you are. Tell her how much her friendship means to you, and that you don't want to lose her as a friend.

After sending her the letter, you have to give her some time and don't pressure her. If you haven't heard from her after two or three weeks, phone or write her again, and tell her again how truly sorry you are, and how much you miss her, and her friendship. If she is still not willing to accept your apology, then simply tell her you're sorry she's not willing to give you another chance, especially since everyone makes mistakes.

All you can do at this point is reassure her you will never intentionally hurt her again.

After that, it's up to her. If she chooses not to forgive you, there's nothing you can do about it. But if that is the way it goes, don't turn on her by becoming angry or hurtful towards her, because that would be a sure way to ruin any chances of ever being friends with her again in the future. Simply tell her if she ever decides she wants to be friends with you again, she knows where to find you.

It takes a real friend to admit they were wrong and apologize, but it also takes a real friend to be willing to at least try to forgive. So if she can't or won't accept your apology, she either (1) feels hurt beyond repair, or (2) she's not the forgiving type. Only you know her and the circumstances, so only you will know which of the two it will be. But either way, you will know you did the right thing by acknowledging your blame and apologizing.