You obviously don't have a high regard for yourself and also have a fetish (or possibly more.) Save it for the S & M Clubs and leave your wife out of it. These clubs provide kinky forms of arousing oneself (can be done without any form of sexual contact) in a controlled environment. I don't blame your wife for not going along with you. Women want to look up to their men, not go for walks with them on the leash! Either you see her side of it or I suggest she gets you some Purina dog food, puts you out in the dog house and finds another guy that "walks like a man" not howls at the moon.