What do you do if you love someone but she does not care about you in the same way?

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I hate to be hard on you, but I think the answer is: move on. You need to get on with your life.

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When I feel a certain way about someone, I try to evaluate whether my feelings are true. Am I infatuated, is it a crush, or is it the real deal. Talking to close/trusted friends helps here, they know "how you think" and stuff like that.

How well do you know the girl involved? This determines how you approach her and let her know how you feel. If you're already friends, it might be easier to broach the topic... and easier to accept if she doesn't feel the same way. If you're not friends already then it is a bit tougher, sometimes talking with her friends might work, sometimes not.

Either way, make your feelings known, but be careful: don't push so hard that you're seen to be harassing her. If she doesn't want to talk to you, go home, sit down and write a letter. Don't worry about how you write it, or what you say in it. When you finish it, seal it, then either run it through a shredder or burn it. The act of writing the letter helps you get your own emotions and feelings in order. You'll feel a heck of a lot better.

If you do talk to the girl and she's real nasty back at you, then you've got a right to feel unhappy. Girls shouldn't treat guys like crap, and when they do, they should know what they're doing is wrong.

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This situation is always an unfortunate one. It is ideal for 2 people to love each other the same, and at the same pace, but life is never ideal. To get this kind of relationship to work, you need patience! you have to weigh either waiting for her or moving on as options. If your feelings are real, and you choose to hang in there, you must not scare her away with your feelings! If things are meant to work out, you should be great friends before lovers anyway. While you let both your feelings reach equilibrium, you'll find it becomes easier sometimes just to ignore your strong feelings for her and just kick-back and chill with her. It's not always important to impress her, or do nice things for her in a loving way. It may give you hope to know that she can see you in the same light, just not so quickly.

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I was just dating a guy for almost 5 months and he finally told me that he doesn't feel the same for me as I do for him...so we've decided to become best friends first and see what happens from there..afterall, no one knows what the future brings and I know I can't just move on with the feelings I have for him. So my advice is...become best friends...do things together and who knows...it could turn out for the best. And if it doesn't, well, then you both just move on.

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Okay, I get the whole never move on thing in a way but at the same time you've got to decide if you are willing to settle for someone that doesn't truely love you. Do you both not deserve a chance at love that's returned. Maybe you need to start talking with her and if she doesn't love you that way then it's time to see it as moving forward and not leaving something behind. Love is a two way street and if your on a one way someones going to get hurt.

No, never move on. Love is always hard at first, but eventually it comes to be depending on how strong your love is. Just because one person may not feel the same way you feel about them doesn't mean its over for you. She may not have been meant to be anything besides a friend. But love comes to be..

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