You may let him know, gently and calmly, that this is harmful to your relationship with him. There is hardly ever any "just friends" with a member of the opposite sex, and certainly there is none with former lovers.
Your marriage is a partnership, if he needs female companionship, a female perspective, or a sympathetic female to listen to him - that should be you. Not another.
ill tell even i like ur ex and we could have a threesome someday
You should not be having an affair with a married woman but if you love her and she really loves you more than your husband you should ask her to divorce him! if she doesnt then she might not really love you as much as you think.
Only if you know the husband will not try and kill you
No, it is a waste of energy for you to hunt down the woman that had an affair with your husband. You are going after the wrong person! Your husband is an adult and he was at fault and he could have formed the word 'no' to any affair, yet he persisted and it is your husband that you should be communicating too and perhaps marriage counselling to help you with tools to better your marriage if you want to save it.
Yes, that is why he is having an affair.
irony and bribing
no.
Yes, she can get a divorce.
Yes.
Ask the other woman if she says no then he is if she says yes then she is also. Why dont you just dump your husband and then you will know.
That's his responsibility. If he is still seeing her, the affair is not over. You can't control your husband. A spouse has the right to the respect, loyalty and faithfulness of their partner. If your husband can't control his behavior then you need to assess your status as his wife and whether you want your present situation to continue. Are you better off with him or without him?
There are two reasons 'Alienation of Affection and criminal conversation which unfortunately have been abolished in the State of Texas. It is your husband that is the problem (he's out hunting for women) and you should legally go after him and not the woman.
Your husband had a tongue in his head and he could have said 'no' to having an affair with the other woman or, he started the affair so it is up to the husband to resolve the problem with the mistress contacting the wife and himself. If the husband does not stop the ex mistress from phoning his wife and himself then the wife should at least apply for a separation because he may still be seeing the mistress.