What do you do when your in love with your ex boyfriends best friend?

Answer 1

First, you need to gauge whether it is really love, or is it lust/infatuation. What happenened to the 'love' between you and your boyfriend? Was it there in the first place, even? If you can 'love' another person while you're attached, clearly you don't love your boyfriend at all, or anymore. You should then be honest, and initiate a breakup. Then look to pursue a relationship with the best friend. BUT you must make sure the other party is willing too.

There is no point staying with someone whom you do not love.

AnswerDo your boyfriend a favor and break up with him if your eyes are wandering. It is doubtful that your boyfriends friend would date you, he probably has a "hands off" policy for ex girlfriends. If the friendship between the guys is strong, you are out of luck. Either way, you are in a lose-lose situation. You should focus on your man and stay away from his friend or leave this poor guy alone so he can get a woman who will love him and not his best friend.

this depends on if you love your boyfriend more than anything you can get through it.if you have been with someone for a long time, the novelty of that relationship will wear off and you could easily turn your attention to his friend as you see him on a regular basis.i am speaking from experience i am still with my boyfriend of a year and a half and i care about him enough to stay with him.

Answer 2

Im no expert on the relationship sort of things,

but i do know that if you have feeling for another guy you should go with who you prefer

you pick one of the 2 guys u like or.... you 3 could have a threesome

Answer 3

Personally, coming from a boy that has had a few thousand break-ups, don't drag the relationship out. I know you must have feelings for your boyfriend otherwise your wouldn't be going out, but he will feel you drifting away if your feelings increase for his friend. While it may ruin their relationship as friends, it would save him from much worse pain if you don't let him off easy. In the end the choice is yours but follow your heart, this is a touchy situation in which someone will be hurt EVEN IF it is ignored.

Answer 4

You need do nothing.

If you love your boyfriend and he loves you, then what difference does it make who else loves you? Chances are other people do love you, secretly, that you'll never learn about. Chances are good that all of these others will also get over it eventually. That's how life works. Only in the rarest cases does anything tragic or desperate occur. We all know the story of Romeo and Juliet -- how their love led to suicides. Yet, the same fellow who wrote that play, a Mr. William Shakespeare, wrote in another play (AS YOU LIKE IT) the following, more sober advice: "Men have died before and worms have eaten them, but not for love."

Be happy that you are a person people fall in love with. You need do nothing about that unless you want to reciprocate with love of your own. Apparently, if you already have a boyfriend you love, you need do nothing. Yes ... the other will "suffer" a bit, but chances are the person is young and will get over it, will adjust and go on to other loves, one of which may even work out.

Recall that when Romeo went to his the Capulet's ball, it was to see a woman named Rosaline. That's who Romeo was "in love" with at the start of Shakespeare's play. That love didn't last too long. He saw Juliet.

I have a feeling your boyfriend's best friend will have a "Romeo experience" one of these days. The real question is: Can you deal with someone who loved you forgetting all about you?

All the best.

--CLV

Answer 5

Breaking up with your boyfriend for his best friend is a really bad thing to do! I mean, if your boyfriend really likes you, than he will obviously get very upset, but if he sees he's best mate with you, than, well not only will he lose you, but also he's mate. I would beat up hard a mate who took my girlfriend. Also, you should think about the fact that his mate might not want to lose his best mate for you, unless he's a total idiot (so why should u be with a idiot than? if he won't care about his best mate, he's unlikely to care much about you, and you might get quickly replaced). This could, most of the time lead you to have neither of them, and them hating each other. But you can do what you want. If you really have no feeling for your current boyfriend, tell him. But if you do, I would try to forget about his best mate. Remember that your current boyfriend has the option to cheat/dump you, but he doesn't cause he's fair, he probably thought of other girls but was loyal and didn't do nothing wrong, he wanted to stay with the one he truly loves - YOU! You should appreciate that and move on. Don't think you're the best girl in the world, be loyal and LOVE, that's the only 2 values that truly matter on this planet, everything else is not important. What ever you do, good luck! x

Answer 6

be happy for them and dont mess it up and dont tell the boyfriend that you love him because you will lose your best friend and the guy will probly i love your best friend instead of doing that wait until they break up talk to your best friend and ask if it would be okay if you go out with her ex if she says yes go for it if she says no tell her okay she will realize that you really arent going to go out with him then feel bad and let yuou or instead of either one of those just look for someone else

Answer 7

well first you should think about it before you do anything OK but if you are truly in love ask him or her out because you don't wont to lose a chance at love OK hope i helped you

Answer 8

Either break up with your boyfriend and purse the best friend, or do nothing.

Answer 9

You should be true with the person you love,tell him that you have developed feelings for someone and you need space to sort tour head out you will have to choose,