What does it mean when your girlfriend says she needs space although she says you haven't broken up just to give her some time alone for a few weeks?

Answer 1

Well, maybe she is feeling like you are smothering her or that you are being to "clingy". Some girls like being the center of attention all the time and some don't. It really just depends on the girl.

Don't take this to heart. Sometimes woman need some time to thereselves, because they want to spend sometime with our family and friends for awhile. Spending too much time together can actually make people break-up because they loose a sense of themselves and feel suffocated at times. Talk to her, tell her how you feel and that if she needs you that you will be right their for her for whatever she needs... and mean it too! I am sure that your just a good guy and that things are going to work out. Just talk to her about how you feel and truthfully, if she is toying with you or is backing away then Buddy, you deserve much better for yourself!!!!

Detailed Case

yeah thats what she says is that she just has alot of stuff on her mind and she needs this time for herself she swears that shes madly in love, and im for her and she doesn't want to leave or break up. she said she just needs this time for her to clear her head ive told her that im here for her she knows that she still calls me everyday and still we end calls with I love you so I just dotn know whats goign on

REPLY:

"For a week?" Did you consider menstruation? She may be rather uncomfortable to talk about such things, especially with a guy. It seems to me you're both very young and you've been "together" for a rather short time. She may be clearing her uterus, not her head. Slight anatomical error ;-)

Just let her work out her feelings, and when she's ready to talk, be honest and straightforward with each other.

Ahhhahaa, she has doubts about the relationship. So she needs time to sort out how she really feels and she probably has another guy on the side but wants to keep you hanging on just in case it doesn't work out with the last fling with the other guy. So, while your away calling her and saying how much she loves you, she's having a fling with this other guy to see if they are sexually compatible. Cause is this woman really loves you, you can be in her face every minute of the day and it wouldn't matter. Fifty percent of all AMERICAN married couples end in divorce cause they don't know what intimate commitment is. Especially, the younger generations. Even worse is that people from other countries pick up this fast-food mentality and destroy the best things about thier own culture. I've been with several American women but it never lasted. I met one woman from Russia and we've been married now for 8 years. It's an entirely different scenario with American women, the majority of them will jump ship once they see something better. There is nothing sacred in America anymore. Blame it on "White" men ! All they want to do is scr* every women in site and *. Look at what's been proliferated all over the internet, the most disgusting imagery concerning White men and women of color. Look how white american women are, they're like wh*. Tanya harding is a good example. Pamela Anderson, another example.Then you have talentless women that sell records solely on premanufactured musical marketing techniques, ala Britney Spears. All looks, but nothing is sacred to them, they make love with one guy and all it means to them is an org* ! So to get back to my point, your probably better off with a woman that understands commitment. You let her go off now, and that pattern will become the norm, until one day you find out she's been scr* another guy on those weeks' off. If a woman needs time away from you, to sort her thoughts out, then she's not the one. Sorry kiddo. You seam like a good person, but don't fool your self now for a load of hurt later. bless your heart.

Sorry, I disagree with the above

In reference to the above post, there seems to be a lot of anger involved, which indicates they've been hurt. While some women may be of bad character, it isn't fair to lump all American or all white women, or all women of color, or all women of any kind into a single group, of that one opinion.

Most women are loyal, trustworthy and loving; it's the few who aren't that give the rest of us a bad name. That post also makes "American" seem like a bad thing. America certainly doesn't have the market cornered on infidelity, nor do women. Did they once stop to think that more marriages end in divorce because it's the husband who cheated on the wife, than the other way around? Apparently not.

Also, just because a woman says she needs a week to her self, does NOT mean she is up to no good. There could be many, many reasons for her needing some time to herself. Maybe she has a medical problem that has to be taken care of and doesn't want to tell the guy about it, for what ever reason (it IS her body). Maybe she does need a few days to herself to decide where she wants to go with her life. Maybe she has a friend who needs her. Maybe she's just tired and needs a break from EVERY one. The list could go on and on with many legitimate, yet honest reasons she would want a few days to her self. So to say "if a woman needs time away from you, to sort her feelings out, she's not the one" is clearly a biased opinion, and not fair to women in general.

Being a girl myself, I have often felt over-crowded and smothered by my boyfriend. I love him to bits but sometimes he can become a bit too obsessive and I normally sit down and talk to him about how I feel and we try and work things out.

No relationship is perfect and sometimes I go a week without making contact (physically and through phone calls etc.) It doesn't mean that I love him any less, or that I'm cheating on him. I wouldn't dream of it.

Sometimes, if I need to spend time with mum (she has Breast cancer), my boyfriend can become jealous because he constantly wants to be around me. That's when I decide to take time out from him.

I have considered breaking up with him but just taking time out seems to improve our relationship and helps him to understand what I really need. I really wouldn't be too concerned about your girlfriend, she most probably just needs some space.

I said that to my boyfriend to a couple months ago. I still loved him but he just wasn't giving me enough time just to let me hang out just me and my buddies. So don't take it personally just give her space.

Another view:

Look bro - I feel ya..... but I too need my own time away from my lady.. my love ... the one that makes me happy just to wake up. The woman I want to be with for the rest of my life yet I am such a coward that I can't tell her that because it may force me into a place that I am afraid of. ............... ya know .... I just may chat w/ her about this ...... when I am sober.

gkasi's view

i think in as much as we can have different perceptions over the case above,its important to realise that the most important thing one can do is to be real with themselves by knowing what they really want in love,a girl asking for time off is welcome so long as its for the good of her and also for the guy.

I am in the same boat bro. I've been dating the same girl for about two years, we had a spell where i was a lil disconnected from her and it made her feel un-loved, she told me she needed some time to think about it, but i didn't give it to her, instead i took her out for a romantic weekend. everything seemed fine till the following week now she says she doesn't know what she wants and she needs time to figure it out again!!!!! I don't know what to think, but I'm staying in a motel room and haven't text or talked to her in three days. It sucks.... I'm pretty sure it's not that she's cheating, she's not that type of girl, the hardest part is the not knowing. I will respect her wishes and give her the space she wants I just hope she makes the right decision..... if not I'll know it wasn't meant to be and I'll move on. as hard as it is I suggest you do the same.

Answer 2

• When some people fall in love they are often together far too much, but then again that is love. Eventually seeing each other too often can become boring or, one or both of the partners can feel smothered and would like time to themselves or perhaps go out with their friends. You are in control of your own life and a simple 'give me a few weeks' is not fair to you. Risk telling your girlfriend that you do not mind giving her some time away from each other, but an indecisive 'few weeks' in an immature statement and leaves you hanging and you should tell her you would rather break off the relationship so you are free to date other girls. This may well get her thinking that there is a risk she is going to lose you and if she doesn't give you a set time (once her head is clear) she may well have lose out on a great guy. Don't sit by and let her call all the shots. Good communication skills are everything.

Answer 3

it means that she needs some space some time to think about things and be with her family and to meet new people.