What does it mean when your ex wants to still be friends?

Answer 1

Some possible reasons are:

He might either:

Feel bad,

Still like you, but not as much, (Just like he likes other people that are simply only his friend),

Or really like being your friend, but nothing more.

If it's the last option, evaluate how you feel. Are you satisfied with only being his friend? If not, get him out of your life, as what is the purpose of keeping something or someone around that doesn't satisfy you at all?

When an ex lover breaks up with you and tell you they want to still be friends with you, it's just a selfish way to remove any guilt for hurting you!

He wants to keep an eye on you and your behavior in case his "new relationship" doesn't work out, then he can come back to you. He wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side.

What ever you do, DO NOT FALL FOR THE WHOLE "LET'S STILL BE FRIENDS" BS, PLEASE!! If the relationship is over, just let it go. A lot of the time, people break up, but still feel there is hope. If you just quite can't let go, trying to "just be friends", may sound like the most logical option, but this is an unintentional action of allowing the dumper to not feel any guilt for hurting your feelings, as the dumpee will always want more, especially if emotional attachment is still there. BIG MISTAKE! It is just a way for you to alleviate any guilt, and this friendship gets in the way of the dumpee's recovery, as a change of heart is always anticipated. I just never understood the whole "You were my girlfriend/boyfriend for God knows how long and now, you're just my platonic friend" thing. It's a hard and awkward transition and it takes time to adjust. Being friends with your ex boyfriend while he's starting a new relationship is hard, as you're going to get hurt, especially if you still have feeling for him. As his friend, he might confide in you or tell you details about his new relationship. It might be difficult or uncomfortable for you to deal with. I feel the only way exes can be friends is if you broke up a while ago and have since gotten completely over each other and have moved on. Before that point, you're just setting yourself up to the point that you'll get disappointed or hurt again. Forget his intentions. He might be missing you and wanting you back or he might just want to be your friend, but think about what your intentions are. Do you want to just be his friend, or, do you want it there to be more? I ask you this, because if the latter is the case, you're setting yourself up for heartbreak, as it won't work out. If you guys want to be friends, you have to make sure that's all you're going to be, and you have to accept and be comfortable with the fact that he has someone new in his life and she's playing the same role you once played in his life, while you are now just a friend of his.

I was with a boy 2 years on and off, and in the end, he broke up with me, and only wanted to be friends. He recently added me on Facebook, and let me tell you, it's not fun, as I may have another guy now and I'm over this one, but seeing him happy with this new girl hurts......long story short, it's a bad idea to be friends with your ex.

Answer 2

Nothing. It simply means he just wants to be friends (again). I would say that it means this person respects you, and wants to be your friend, even though they are attracted to someone else right now. That is not unusual in young men.

Answer 3

This simply means that your ex has much respect for you. It means that at one point in time they truly have feelings for you; but they are no longer in love with you. Your ex probably feels that the two of you are not on the same page when it comes to relationships; therefore would prefer to have you as a friend. I am currently going thru this situation...I am breaking up with him because I can't spend another 5 years in this relationship, knowing that He does not want children or marriage. These two things are something that I want for my future and He will not be able to provide that to me. I love him so much and it kills me to have to let him go but it is something I must do because in the long run I will be missing out on what I have always wanted. I want to continue being his friend because he has NEVER done anything to make me feel that he is a bad person; but for some reason he has made a decision that we cannot be friends after we have broken up.

Answer 4

"Either he's playing you or he's playing her" is the typical answer. However, what is more likely to be the case is that he has feelings for both of you. You need to talk to him and find out what his plan is for your future together (if there is one). If not then you should try to move on. He may come running back eventually.

Answer 5

then be friends silly geez dont wanna ruin your chances of having her/him again

Answer 6

It is fine to be friend with your ex . I and my ex are also friends . But it is suggested to you to maintain a safe distance and not to get involved with him/her again .