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my mother was born in the autumn of 1957. my grandmother, who was only 19 at the time of birth (18 at conception), came from a very traditional catholic family. her father was a well respected businessman and her mother considered herself to be a socialite (although she never did more than accompany her husband to business dinners etc.). they raised my grandmother to be a catholic and taught her to be celibate. this meant my grandmother was not very wise regarding 'sexual knowledge'.
one day, my grandmother was convinced by friends to go to a party (she had never been to a party before). when she arrived she was convinced to consume some alcohol for the first time. a boy (who is/was my grandfather) pressured her into sex - seeing her as an easy target i suppose.
it was a couple of months or so she found out she was pregnant. this made her very worried all the time and, according to my mother who was told by my grandmother, she would lock herself in the toilet and have panic attacks. despite her catholic faith, she considered abortion - fearing her parents reaction. however, this was not possible. she did, however, drink half a bottle of gin and took a very hot bath which burnt her mildly. when her parents discovered the gin, she was forced to confess. her parents were not happy. the day she told them, they both took her upstairs and made her watch as they destroyed all her belongings.
when my mother was born, my grandmother moved into a flat in the poorer area of London (an area she was unfamiliar with). she had never had anything to do with the lower classes so she did not know what to expect.
whilst my mother was a baby, according to friends of my grandmother, she was neglected severely.
when my mother was six, my grandmother got engaged to a middle class shop owner. my great grandparents 'suddenly' got in proper touch with her and began approving. when she moved in with the man and got pregnant, her parents were thrilled. her sister also became pregnant to what my great-grandparents would consider more suitable (a businessman whom she was married to), but they still shared out the happiness.
8 months later, my grandmother began giving birth and had a stillborn baby. a week later her husband left her, telling her she could keep the house but left her no money. she then desperately tried to contact her family, whom she could not get hold of. she then went to visit at the house. when she got there her parents didn't speak a lot. then, when she was sitting on the sofa, her sister came in with her newborn baby and, all of a sudden, her parents were smiley and talkative. they began cooing over the baby in front of her before asking her to leave because she was miserable and ruining their fun with their first grandchild.
she then went home and had a breakdown. my mother came down the stairs and found her scrubbing the floor and sobbing. she scrubbed all night. when my mother woke up she found her curled in a ball.
whilst my mother was growing up, she had to watch her mother deteriorate. she had lost all her friends who disliked the way she raised my mother yet failed to do anything about it. she had several jobs but was never there long. when my mother was fifteen, my grandmother lost all contact with her parents and my mother was forced to leave school and work, apparently faking her age to do so. a lot of money went toward alcohol. my grandmother would often have men home who would sleep with her for money.
my mother then left home and married my father. when she gave birth to me she was very happy. my grandmother, however, was not. it must have been jealousy and anger/upset for all that happened to her with children, babies etc. my mother only took me over once where something happened. she never told me what it was. she did however, have to have my grandmother put away. she went over to her house and was forced to watch as they dragged her, screaming, out of her house.
whilst i was growing up, my mother was quite cold. at times she was nice and i loved it, but it soon would change. for example: we would have a day where she would randomly be lovely (these were rare) and i would forget that she was cold. the next day i would think she was still 'all loving' but would soon realize she was not in 'nice mode' any more.
her coldness was never abusive, it was mostly just emotionless - yet sometimes she could be cruel. she was also very disciplinary, to the extent that people i know/knew would tell me it was bad - but i knew it wasn't abuse so i was prepared to live with it. she would smack us every time we were bad, and her smacks were hard, also she had a stick that she would beat us if we were really bad. (us being me and my two siblings). i distinctly remember in primary school when i was quite upset at the fact no one else's parents smacked them, not even slightly (i asked around through curiosity).
only through strength, support and sharing my story (which really helped) have i taught myself not to follow a path that will end me up a cold person.

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