Ask the couple and their families what stores they have gift registries at. If you can't contact the couple and their families don't know where they are registered go to a website like:
registryfinder.com
weddingchannel.com OR
giftregistrylocator.com
and enter in the couple's names. These free registry finders will find out where these two names are registered (which stores). If the couple is registered then this service will pick up on the stores and their gift choices. You can then go to a physical store or their website and buy things off of their gift registry. It's better to buy weddinbg gifts off of their registry because they actually chose these gifts. That means that they will love whatever you buy, because they chose it.
Also, don't bring the gift to the wedding. Have it the store ship it to the address that the couple has on file at the store.
If you have not been invited to the wedding then you should not send a gift.
Bring a card or small token gift.
Etiquette states that you have up to a year after the wedding to get someone a wedding gift.
* The best thing to do when someone does not buy a wedding gift for your son or daughter's wedding is to ignore it. Some of these guests may well give a wedding gift later and those that don't then they have no etiquette and just remember that when it's their turn if one of their children gets married. It's not worth the energy to bring it up and is not proper etiquette to do so.
you dont get him a gift you be a flipin jerk and not care
Yes it is etiquette to have a bridal shower for a second wedding.
Yes. It is proper etiquette, although it is also common for them to decline (but that probably depends on your relationship with him/her).
Etiquette dictates up to one year.
Yes. Very.
The correct way to address a gift is "Mr. & Mrs. James Smith". The couple is already married so it is proper to address it this way.
Be the bigger person and use your wedding etiquette. Just because he dropped the ball does not mean that you have to.
No, it is not necessary to give an engagement present unless someone is giving a party for the fiance and fiancee. A wedding shower gift from the females invited to the shower and a wedding gift is etiquette.