Answer:
It depends. you need to experiment and try different ones.
With condems, there is Astroglide Anal shooter water based lube.
Without condoms- I prefer silicone based. I personally recommend JO Anal Silicone lube.
water based lubes can be used without condoms but silicone based lube last a lot longer.
I suggest KY jelly. It should work fine. A condom should also be used
note- KY jelly is oil based and not recommended with condoms