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Narcissists are all about control. Show them that they no longer have control over you. Don't call them. Don't email them. Cease all contact. Don't answer their calls or emails. Avoid them if you see them in person and show no reaction. The lack of reaction to them will be absolutely maddening.
Best of all, get on with your life, make yourself look good, join a class, make new friends and date non-narcissist partners. Your ex will practially wither away seeing you so independent and getting on with your life.
Success is the best revenge.
~ T
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This is a good answer except in the case if you have decided to stay with him......my revenge is quiet and yet I do love him and he is in the mutation phase now as he is older......he treats me better the better I look and the more I handle myself socially as a lady....he tremendously admires my strength and knows he is wrong and his cards for birthday are cards that actually now say things in them (he did not write the words in the card, words were already printed on the cards themselves) that says thanks for staying with him when he has failed so miserably , etc....this is a BIG step for this man...he has LEARNED in his age of almost 60 that it is nice to be peaceful. He does not really know the anger I have carried and dealt with and does not care most of the time, so I don't bring it up anymore....I have more peace when I can manipulate him in ways that are small.....house looks nice when he comes home, fire going, something for him to grill outside on weekends, serve him a vodka, have conversation (only really what he wants to talk about, etc.)....it works as I have decided to stay after 16 years of it.....I see what is out there and I don't see much and as long as my heart is still FOR him, I will continue to do so...I can be by myself AND be with him also....