What should a 30-year-old man do if he is choosy about the women he dates yet feels lonely?

Advice for a Lonely Guy

Here is advice:

• It sounds to me that he has a personal criteria that he expects to go by. I mean, if the man has preferences then let him have them. I think he is a very thorough individual that wants to be friends with someone first. There is nothing wrong with that. I think more people should be that way. If he is complaining about his situation, then ask him if he is willing to change that part of himself. Most of the time guys are pretty much set in their ways, and don't like change. You might not know that he is lonely.

• He needs to take risks. If you don't, what will you learn in this world? You need to date because that's how you get to know people. One of those people you turned or turn down could be the one for you.

• Those answers above are missing the point. He is a perfectionist and possibly somewhat vain. He has high standards that may be a true detriment, as he is aging quickly and might find himself growing old alone. Perhaps, as cliche as it may sound, he should lower his standards a bit or look for the inner qualities that make a person special. We can't get any younger and we must mature and realize that our physical qualities deteriorate quickly but the inner last a lifetime.

First answer by Tierbuilder. Last edit by Mixtmarshall. Contributor trust: 17 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 28 [recommend question]