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Seek a PPO. Its a Personal Protection Order. You can get one at your local county courthouse, or at the Clerks office, you can also go on-line and check them out considering what state you live in. Personal Protection Orders are designed for domestic (family or relationship) situations. If this gets serious or if you feel the treat to be genuine, you can also call the cops and inform them of said threat. Anytime someone threatens you and you feel that the treat is real, that is an assault, you do not need to get hit for an assault to be warranted. nor do you need a battery (hitting of any kind) to follow along with it. an Assault is when a person makes a threat that the person to whom the threat was made feels in fear of the person making said threat, therefore, if this happens an Assault has occurred, most times when someone say something to the extent of, "I'm going to beat the S#$% out of you," (an Assault) and follows it up it by doing so (battery) it becomes an Assault and battery. But for now if seek A PPO and Call the police within a reasonable time of the treat being made.

Answer1. LEAVE. Leave now, leave quickly, get to someplace safe and surround yourself with people that truly care about you. Yes, it's complicated. Yes, it can be heartbreaking - but here's two insights that might help; your boyfriend has some issues that he needs to deal with (whether its anger management, his own past childhood abuse, chemical abuse, Bipolar disorder or something else), and love does not involve threatening people with anything (little of all death). You do not have the expertise to give your boyfriend the professional help he clearly needs to become stable and a non-threat, neither are you in a safe position to assist him to get that expertise. Relationships based on threats have no trust, no trust means no security nor love, without security or love...why is there a relationship? The answer is out of habit. Habit is not a valid reason for relationships of any kind.

1a. You need to get a record with the local police department as soon as possible registering a complaint against him for threatening you. The reason for this is that most state/local laws about stalking or restraint orders require a significant stack of paperwork to show reason why that legal measure would be necessary, and you should have it as a safety net. When you get in touch with the police, be sure to have his car license plate number with you. If he is involved with any minor fender-benders in the near future, the record at the police department should spur an investigation - even if you weren't present and no one was majorly injured.

1b. Seek expert advice about the validity of his threats, and what response is best as far as whether you should live at a safe house for a while or if you should not change any habits (so as not to empower him as per response #1's idea). An expert can ask you questions about the circumstances of the threat, his past history of threatening you, and other such critical pieces of evidence that are too private for the internet ~ and unknowable to any random advice giver (no matter how good the intention is). This leads to number 2 -

2. Locate a good counselor and meet with him or her to talk about your experiences with this soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend so that you can observe any patterns in your life that might create future relationship difficulties with men who will be much more significant to you and much more thoughtful and loving. Most states offer a low income counseling option, if money is an issue - if you are still in high school talk to your school counselor. Many cities have "survival" groups that are free. People who share related experiences meet in these (mostly open membership) groups to work through issues and yes, have fun. Joining a "abuse survival" group might be a good experience for you, even if you were never physically abused - mental abuse (such as a threat that causes so much anxiety that you resort to posting an annonymous question on the WikiAnswers website) is also abuse. If money isn't a concern, get the counselor who has the most experience in the area of relationships, abuse, etc. If all else fails, buy one of those recent books by Dr. Phil. Seriously. Not that his threat to you is in any way your fault - rather, it is important for your safety that you can identify characteristics about this soon to be ex that make him dangerous, so that you avoid others like him in your future. After all, part of resolving this question of yours is how you will heal after this experience. (Note: another expert that might be of assistance to you if you are inclined to do so, have the money to do so, and would feel more secure doing so, is a lawyer while you are at it. Select this lawyer by word-of-mouth (ask trusted friends) the yellow pages is just not a good way to judge which lawyers are good or not. I doubt you would need a lawyer at all...but hey, its an option.) But...back to the nice warm and fuzzy part - see point 3 below.

3. The good news is - the future is yours. It's all yours and it is a nice loooooong future. You will get wrinkles and grey hair, you will have more grandkids than you know what to do with. Someday ~ in the distant future. And the sooner you safely get out of the relationship you are in (by involving police and other experts) the sooner this nice future will have its first, promising days. It wont be easy, nothing is, staying would be far harder. The past is just that, it is gone. The present is what you can change. The future is yet unwritten. Your future should be filled with security, safety, and loving people who wish the best for you. Reach out to those people, and take your first steps toward meeting the one's you don't know yet. Leave. ASAP.

AnswerHey buddy!

Relax. People who issue these kind of threats are usually like dogs who just know to bark and not to bite. So,don't you worry. He comes across as an abuser no doubt. But, don't you be scared of him. I will advise you to involve your parents in the issue if you can and if not then take help of a very reliable friend and report the matter to police immediately. He will be taken to task. And at no point show yourself to be a weak person. Leave him immediately and also you can tell him that you are not scared of his threats and he can do whatever he feels like and that you have already informed a few good people about it (threats, so if anything has to happen to you he won't get off scot free).

And friend, next time try to judge a person well and give yourself sometime before you commit into a relationship. Good Luck!

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* Tell a teacher, school counselor or your parents. Although the boy probably wasn't mature enough to know that hitting girls is wrong and he made a mistake he should be made to apologize to you and taught a good lesson in life.

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Dump him is the safest thing to do. Besides, if he threatens to hit you that's not a true boyfriends. There are heaps of boyfriends better than that jerk.

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