What should you do if you are 19 and have a partner who calls you degrading names but you don't want to lose him?

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Be true to yourself! If you don't have respect for yourself then no one else will! I use to be shy and loved to please and I went through some tough times when I was in my teens. I couldn't believe that once I got into my 20s and learned to form the words "no" or "that's unacceptable behavior" how much more easier life was. Love is not about someone hurting you physically or with cruel words. You are in an abusive cycle and you are vying for the approval of this guy. Don't bother with this waste of skin! He's no good and keep on moving! There is a nicer guy out there that will treat you with the respect you should feel you deserve.

Good luck

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Dump him. You are young you have lots of time to find someone who will treat you with respect. Why don't you want to lose him if he tries to make you feel bad about yourself? If he cared about you he wouldn't do that. If you're afraid of being alone, well you'd be suprised how much you can enjoy being single and how much pride you can have in yourself to not need anybody. Then when you meet someone better you'll be ready for them.


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first i would advise that you see if he does anything else, is he bad to you, does he cheat on you, does he hit you, does he stay out late and not call you for months or weeks does he act like this all the time or certain times is he like that with other people or just with you

if its just you and or he does do other things it means hes just a loser and yeah get rid your better than that. No-one should put up with being called names by someone because they feel bad about themselves(thats usually the problem)

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therei s a social based disease that can actually cause social problems in a person which makes them unable to communicate their feelings properly its called aspergers syndrome,
you should check it out, my fiance has it and only recently found out, for years he was mean and unsociable, and yes called me and other people horrible names,

big symptoms of it are they are unsympathetic, un empathetic, and have little understanding that the words they are saying are actually derogatory and hurtfull, people often think of them as a bit strange and unsocial.

its not an easy disease to live with but we are finding ways through it and im more understanding of it now as i know why he does it so it is possible.
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First answer by Marcy. Last edit by Froufrou4. Contributor trust: 164 [recommend contributor]. Question popularity: 63 [recommend question]

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