What should you do if you suspect the guy you've been seeing for years is cheating?

Sorry Terry, I read your first query before I saw this one. I hate to be redundant, however I think you already know the answer. But, maybe he needs, as they used to say "his own space." I don't know if you have children together, or your age, etc. That makes it a little harder to speculate on the "is he or isn't he" question? Blessings

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Terry, I would sit him down and ask him point blank what is going on and if there is anything that he needs to get out in the open before things drop downhill dramatically. If you don't, and he is cheating, then it could hurt you in the long run more than it will him. Women carry things around for along time, we all know this. So just ask him, if he doesn't answer, or he tries to put it off or change the subject, you pretty much have your answer.

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you have to ask yourself ' if the person loves me then they wouldn't want to put me through pain '

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Get rid of him, if your just dating and is cheating, what's going to happen if you marry him? He'll cheat. Once a cheat always a cheat~!!!! You have to respect yourself enough NOT to allow him/anyone to treat you with such little respect.



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i doubt that you dont already know the answer to this yourself,
you are more likely just asking this for confirmation that your decision ,which ever it is, is the right one, and only you will know that.

you know what kind of responses that question is going to get, its always going to be get rid, your better off with out, and of course just ask him
but only you know what your relationship is worth to you and only you know what you want to do.

suspecting is not enough to make a desision on ,which is also why you are asking because you know this already too, and all you can do is either get the proof, believe him when he says no or let go of the relationship to ease your life and ease your mind

its all true everything everyone says your better off, get rid, you deserve better, just ask him, you know it is

have confidence in your own ability to make the decision

you need to have confidence in your relationship and if you find you cant no matter how many times he says no hes not cheating then you need to either trust him or leave him.
but you must make a decision and act on it or you will forever be stuck in an untrusting questioning unknown limbo
thats all i got
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You certainly can't go on second guessing your mate, but also, I agree with above posters that you already know he's cheating. My first husband cheated so my sister-in-law and I followed him one night and we caught him with two women! I kicked him out and filed for divorce immediately. I never looked back and now I've been married to a wonderful man for 35 years. Look after YOU!

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First and foremost - you might want to just ask him and be up front. Try to get an honest answer or explanation.

You can install Spyware on a computer that he uses to track emails, IMs, and websites visites.

Check on www.cheaterzzz.com to see if he is suspected as being a cheated by anyone else. Add him if you believe that he really is - and you will be kept in the loop.

Install or hide a GPS in his vehicle so that you can see where he goes.

Ask a friend of his whom you think you can trust if everything is okay.

NOTE: All of these methods involve a GREAT deal of distrust and should only be done as a last resort.

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