What should you do if you think your good friend is attracted to your husband?

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Be polite but to the point. The next time she makes an innappopriate comment to your husband, smile sweetly and say, "It's too bad you have to practice flirting with Mike because you can't find a man." I think your husband should at least not respond to the comments, and avoid her somewhat.

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That's a terrible idea. Maybe she is attracted to him but has not and would not act on her feelings because of your friendship. Insulting her would drive a wedge between you and could encourage her to go after your husband. It's common for people to feel attracted to people who are unavailable, and most people don't hide their feelings as well as they think they can. Give her and your husband the benfit of the doubt. If you are mean and jealous, as the first answer suggests, you may lose both your friend and your husband.

If she is attracted to him it's all the more reason to speak up and say something. She ovious is saying what she wants without regarding her friendship to her friends. Don't give her and your husband the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance to pursue what deeper feelings they could have. Nipit, nipit immediately. She doesn't sound like a friend. I think men what women to fight for them.

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confront her. I would not play with such a thing.

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You need to lay down the law. Especially if, like in my situation, the friend is known to have slept with other friends' boyfriends and ex-boyfriends. Easier said than done, though. For the fear of losing the friendship, I haven't brought myself to bring it up to her. But perhaps the friendship isn't worth saving.

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If she is a good friend, she will understand what "boundaries" mean.

You need to establish these to protect your family - as I have stated in a previous Answer: Sirach 36:25 "Properties with no fences will be plundered" or "Where no hedge is, there the possession is spoiled".

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Nothing...Be flattered. It is a compliment, of sorts. Would you rather she thought your husband was a loser?

What you seemed to be worried about has nothing to do with anyone else and everything to do with how your husband handles it....and of course, how you handle it....which, so far...is not very well.

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Ummm..if you think your good friend is attracted to your husband, then obviously she isnt your friend. A friend wouldnt do something like that to a friend. EVER! You can think someone is attractive, but you certainly dont act on that. And if this person is a friend of yours, you certainly dont act on him either. A friend wouldnt do that to a friend. No matter what the circumstances were.

A person who I thought was a friend mine, was attracted to my husband. She answered her door, with only a sexy nightgown on, after she had her daughter call my daughter and invite her over to spend the night. My "good friend" knew I was working that night, and knew my husband would be the one bringing our daughter over. I guess she tried to pull one over on me. Needless to say, my husband told me what she did, and what she was wearing, and so forth. She wasnt my friend after that, and I have so enjoyed telling others the story of my friend.

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I would end the friendship.

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First of all, If you think your friend is attracted to your husband, than she really isnt a friend. I would keep her away from your husband. If you still want her as a friend, keep her away from him, and tell her he doesnt like her around all the time. Say something that will make her think he isnt attracted to her and that he doesnt want to be around her.

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you really don,t have to worry if your friend is attracted to your husband..why not if hes hot ?would,nt any red blooded woman think so.?

.why is it different because she,s your friend? if she oversteps the mark by overt flirtation and with no regard for your feelings then yes,speak up on ,the spot that you won,t tolerate it...but that may never happen if you just not overreact....

the ONLY THING you have to worry about is if he is attracted to HER.if so, and it,s not your imagination,then you have a reason to worry.

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Sit back and take a deep breathe and really look at why you feel like that. Is she flirting with him overtly and his he enjoying it? Does she make comments to you like she wishes she'd have a guy like him??? Does she touch him when she's talking to him? I shutter to think that you think this is one sided only because normally someone has to get signals from another that is behavior is acceptable? There is no harm in your friend finding your husband attractive that should be a compliment to both of you but if she is making you uncomfortable or your husband doesnt seem to mind then maybe you should let her know in a "friendly" way exactly what it is that you notice and see what she says. If she's your friend she will appreciate your honestly and make the adjustments. Just dont come out and blurt that you think she "wants" your man, Say something like "Hey, I want to talk to you about something that is bothering me" "Sometimes when you do _____or ______ It makes me a little uncomfortable because we are friends and I think there are certain boundaries or lines we just dont do. Ask your husband too if he notices and see what he says, If he says it doesnt bother him then he needs to adjust that and not lead her on....

Pay attention and watch body language

Pay attention to it, don't dismiss it. Go with your gut. Confront your friend if you believe it to be true and let her know you're wise to it. I didn't and paid the price for it. Trust yourself, your instincts are probably right. Of course, this assumes that you're not an overly or abnormally suspicious or jealous person. My best friend and husband ended up having a year long affair until I caught them in the act. Body language and where people's eyes linger tell everything their mouths don't say. Read up on body language.

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I've had this happen to me several times. Actually, I feel flattered and I trust my husband. It is probably flattering for his ego as well and why not! I trust my husband enough to handle the situation on his own steam, but once (it was so funny) we were at a cocktail party on a yacht he helped build and the owner's wife was all eyes for him and kept following him around the yacht. As he passed me by for about the 5th time (I was talking to some other people) he formed the words, "Help!" I was laughing so hard I had to walk away from the people I was with. I walked over to my husband and simply said, "Hon, if you play your cards right maybe we can go on that vacation we have dreamt about for several years and you can be her boy toy and I can do the cooking!" He was on his own! Of course I was kidding and eventually I did give "that look" to her (had many years of practice) and she backed-off.

If you trust your mate then there is no need to say anything. Only once did I approach a single girl that was at a party of mine, but it was because she was flirting very openly several of my girlfriend's husbands that I intervened and I took her to a more private part of my house and had a blunt talk with her. I told her I had been good enough to ask her and unless she could behave like a lady she had to leave. Thankfully she did smarten-up and the rest of the evening was enjoyable.

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