What should you do if your live-in boyfriend and you just can't see eye to eye anymore and he says you're selfish and you think he is a know-it-all?

Answer 1

* I think you are both right! You're selfish and he's a know-it-all. One individual personality can enhance the other or it can mean war. If you really want this relationship to work out both of you have to take your lumps on this one. Stop being selfish and he's got to stop thinking he knows it all. It takes work and we all have bad habits in our lives that we need to work on. * First off being selfish really is a general statement you need for him to clarify what you are being selfish about. If you say he is a know it all start having him prove his answer and another way is to verify the answers yourself then if he is wrong the show him. then let him know that you are not very happy with him trying to answer all the questions without really knowing the answer. Let him know that it is alright for him not to know everything and it is OK for him to look it up. Sometimes some guys need to show that they may know all the answers just to continue impressing the person they are with. They need to feel needed even if they are wrong with the answer. If you really care about this person and you see a future with him then you need to let him know how you feel. Tell him how it bothers you and be straightforward about it. As for your being selfish after it has been clarified what or how you are being selfish then next time you are doing the same thing be honest especially with yourself and look at what you are doing. Are your being selfish? Are you sharing or allowing him to participate? One of the hardest things that people have in a relationship, and it is the #1 killer of relationships is communication. What you two need to do is if you do see a future with the other person is sit down once a week and just talk. Talk about things that are bothering you and about things that have made you happy. One thing to do before you start is to talk about the rules. Set rules so that there is no finger pointing and no accusations. It is about letting each other know what is happening with each other. Once you do this you will find that through better communication you will both find the love and the heart that was there from the beginning. And above all make sure that the both of you are honest with each other. Once you start learning how to communicate you will be able to do it more frequently and with more honesty. == == * My conclusion to this is that you don't really belong together. Show him up. Play his game. Shove things back up in his face that he tells you. Do some community work so he can't say anything to you. Or just tell him that if he has a problem with it why is he dating you? If he loves you it'll be a harder question than you think to answer. I've gone through it too.