Write "Adults Only Ceremony and Reception" on the bottom of your wedding invite
* Whether some guests are going to a wedding or not it is etiquette to send them a wedding invitation as some people are sentimental and will keep the invitation.
Either with a letter, if there is time, or with a phone call.
When sending out the invitation a small note can be added on the bottom that says 'adults only reception.' For guests with children to just assume they can bring their children is poor etiquette because they should know that the bride's parents are paying by the plate for the guests.Follow up question: What if the persons invited is the uncle/aunt of the groom? These people do not have a babysitter to take care of the children for the three days the uncle and aunt we would be out of town to attend the wedding.
It is proper to invite only the children that will be part of the wedding, or to invite only immediate family member's children, ie. nieces & nephews. However, it is not appropiate to invite some family's children and not others, or some friend's children and not others.
* The best thing to do when someone does not buy a wedding gift for your son or daughter's wedding is to ignore it. Some of these guests may well give a wedding gift later and those that don't then they have no etiquette and just remember that when it's their turn if one of their children gets married. It's not worth the energy to bring it up and is not proper etiquette to do so.
The groom's parents are only responsible for paying out of town guests at rehearsal dinner for: Parents of the bride (some parents are divorced and one ex may live out of town or both live out of town, but often the out of town parents of the bride will pay their own way if they can financially afford it); Maid of honor; bridesmaids; flower girl or ring bearer. Any other relatives or friends that are not in the wedding party should pay their own way.
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The proper time to start sending out save the date cards for your wedding is approximately six months before the big day. This way your guests can find the time a lot more easily.
Depending on the role played in the wedding, attire for the wedding dance varies. The bride traditionally wears a white wedding dress and the groom a tuxedo or suit. The bridesmaids typically wear the outfits assigned by the bride. Guests of the wedding should avoid white or black and should wear an outfit appropriate for the type of wedding taking into account formality and a possible theme.
a written invitation or a phone call would be acceptable and proper
It is proper etiquette to only invite people to the shower who will also be invited to the wedding. If the couple is having a private ceremony with only family, then only invite family to the shower. If they are eloping and not inviting anyone, it would be safest not to have a shower because those at the shower would be expecting a wedding invitation.
what is the proper lineup of the wedding party on the wedding day who comes in when