Where does spare the rod and spoil the child come from?

Answer 1

Specifically Proverbs 13:24

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see also Proverbs 19:18, 22:15, 29:15, 23:13-14

For anyone wishing an answer that doesn't require them to take out the family bible, I will point out that the rod in question is the one that is used to beat children who misbehave. It was believed, by those who make that statement, that if children are not violently punished, they will become bad children, who cannot be controlled and will be horribly inconsiderate.
This verse is from Proverbs 13:24

Answer 2

Spare the cane spoil the child means if you don't disapline your child then your spoiling them

The Bible phrase is actually: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)."

The Hebrew word was shiavet, which means scepter or authority. If you choose scepter in your translation, you can then consider that scepter is a big stick (rod) and leave it at that. If "authority" is what was meant, then the conclusion is different.

Answer 3

It means, we all need reproof, correction and discipline.

"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." (Prov.13:24 NIV)

"PROVERBS 13... [verse] 24. He acts as if he hated his child, who, by false indulgence, permits sinful habits to gather strength, which will bring sorrow here, and misery hereafter." (Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary)

Answer 4

• No truer words were ever spoken, but unfortunately, child psychiatrists; psychologist and many books put doubts into parent's minds about whether to spank their children or not. Some people may have also come from an abusive family and therefore they are trying hard not to spank their children. All one has to do is look back 10 - 20 years and see how much more polite and controlled children were and more respect for their parents because most got a good spanking on the rear end by hand and as long as nothing such as a wooden spoon or any other object was not used this has never twisted a child's mind to the point their life is ruined. In fact, children that have been properly spanked (over the knee and a couple of whacks on the rear end and sent to their rooms) never felt they were ill treated when they became productive and mature adults. Children that are cajoled and prodded into being good and not learning that you are responsible for your own actions (the parents guides the child) are often the most troublesome and out of control children and sometimes will get into trouble with drugs or the law. However, there are a few children that are not much trouble to raise at all and never need a spanking or be controlled by grounding them or not letting them on the computer or watch TV.

Answer 5

This saying is based on several Proverbs from the Bible for example:

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.

So spare the rod and spoil the child means if you don't correct your child your child will grow up undisciplined, foolish.

For years Dr. Benjamin Spock encouraged parents to be permissive. After living to see a generation of bratty, pesky children, he admitted that he had been wrong. He said, "Inability to be firm is, to my mind, the commonest problem of parents in America today." He placed the blame, at least in part, on the experts-"the child psychiatrists, psychologists, teachers, social workers, and pediatricians, like myself."

The parent who genuinely loves his child does not condone naughtiness, but disciplines the child promptly.

Answer 6

"Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not a direct quote, but an axiom based on biblical teachings such as the following:

Proverbs 22:15 - Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13, 14 - Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul from hell.

Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

[Quotes from the NKJV]

The phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child" is often incorrectly attributed to the Christian Bible. It does not appear there. It was first written in a poem by Samuel Butler in 1664.

Answer 7

It means if you dont beat youre child, the child will grow arrogant and not listen to you, thus you are effectively spoiling him/her.

Answer 8

samuel butler