Answer:
As no two children with autism are alike, the best approach is an individualized one. The answer to your question depends on A) THE AGE OF THE CHILD IN QUESTION and B) The severity of the syndrome ie. Is the child very high functioning or is he/she severely affected?
The very first thing to do is EDUCATE yourself on the education law (IDEA) and on autism. Keep all records, behavior, doctor's visits, medical records, etc.
If your child is younger than three, the first thing to do is have the child evaluated by an "Early Intervention" team, Preschool Assessment Center or infant/ toddler connection. They will then inform you of your child's needs and the services available.
If the child is of school age, request an evaluation through the public school system.
The approach for a child who is severely affected will be very different from the approach for a high functioning child. There are a lot of sites claiming a CURE-- AVOID them like the plague!! They are nothing but quacks---THERE IS NO CURE FOR AUTISM--ONLY APPROPRIATE AND EARLY EDUCATIONAL INTERVENTION.
Finally, find out what programs are offered through the public school system and if the teachers have been trained in Autism Spectrum Disorders. Some states are known to be further advanced in autism programs--California, New York. Look into the services and talk to Occupational therapists, physical therapists and developmental specialists; they usually know the best programs/ schools but I can't stress enough that your own homework will provide the most accurate answers as to what is best for your child. BECOME AN EXPERT IN AUTISM AND THE IDEA-- THE INDIVIDUALS WITH DISABILITIES EDUCATION ACT .
Diana (nurse and parent of a child with a neurodevelopmental disorder)