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Which is good. 'Marriage for love' or 'arranged marriages'. What are some opinions?
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As someone who is not personally subject to arranged marriage, I have to say that, of the few people I know who are in arranged marriages, there seem to be pro's and con's for both ways. Marriage for love is not a sure thing, in North America there is around 50% or higher divorce rate within two years (the vast majority of which are not arranged marriages). I also know of a few couples for whom arranged marriages coincided with love or blossomed into love afterward, so having both forms of marriage is obviously possible. There must be some redeeming qualities of arranged marriage, else why continue with the practice? The same with marriage for love. Ultimately, the choice must be made by the affianced couple, follow the old ways, or the new. One must assume that the parents involved in arranging marriages, must have the best interests of the family in mind, at the very least, so the affianced person(s) need to decide if it's in their own best interests as well, and whether their own best interests either outweigh the family interests, or complement them. I believe it would be wise to at least meet your possibly future spouse. Who knows? Maybe you can have the best of both worlds.
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What about arranged marriages?
Arranged marriage are not always good. Most times the consent of the couple is not approved before the marriage.
Are prearranged marriages good?
Pre arranged marriage without the consent of the partners is wrong. It becomes forceful instead of freewill.
What is the success rate of love marriages and arrange marriages?
Success rate of love marriages is as good or as bad as arranged marriages.
What is a good sequel for An Arranged Marriage To A Vampire?
A good sequel for "An Arranged Marriage To A Vampire" would be "Love from Dusk To Dawn".
Is arranged marriage better than love marriage?
Love Marriage Versus Arranged Marriage?Arranged marriages last longer than love marriages! Here is the reason. For two persons to get along in a close relationship, they have a greater chance of succeeding if they are alike. In arranged marriages - still practiced in Japan - the elders in a family look for a partner, seeking one of similar background, religion and ethnicity. In love marriages, the assumption that "love conquers all" is patently false, for love will eventally fade and then you will be faced with a person dissimilar and often opposed to your lifestyle. This makes the getting along more difficult, resulting in sequential marriages. This does not bode well for kids, for they need both parents to raise them.More on marriages and their pitfalls in Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other Disasters" and Gottman's "Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work."Love vs. ArrangedWhenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arrange marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arrange marriages. Most of us have the feelings that arrange marriage is the concept of Indian society. But history tells us that arranged marriages use to happen even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arrange marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste.The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India as India always had a tradition of arranged marriages. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society. But this change was seen only among the educated and high society Indians. The rural parts of the country remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriage persisted.Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their life partner without any kind of social pressure. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. This change in the mental set up of the people gave birth to love marriages. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society. In our country we are having both love and arranged marriages.If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both have certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concepts is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend your life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both, and this can only happen when you spend time together. People may argue that even after knowing each other for so long why people get divorced after a love marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. Most people think that those who go for arranged marriage are not in an advantageous position, but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them know each other so the social and family pressures are less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.Arranged marriages, offer more protection and security to the women as the parents decide the family. Parents make use of their maturity and decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for.Love or arranged both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. There is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.A bit more:It can be said there are good arguments for and against arranged marriages vs marriage for love. But there are so many components to a good marriage that there is not an easy 'yes' or 'no' answer to this question.A good marriage is based on love, respect, trust, committment, compatibility, loyalty, common views and opinions, and being willing to constantly work on your marriage. And you have to be good to each other, as well as good for each other. Think of a marriage as a living, breathing being, which needs constant nurturing. You can't neglect it, nor can you abuse it, and expect it to work.For more on how to have a good marriage see the related link below.
What percent of arranged marriages are happening in the world?
Good question! As far as I know, there are no real percentages.
What are some good things about arranged marriages?
Hi there,There are many advantages in arrange marriages. The reason being, two people conduct their marriage in the presence of their family. The best part is that it is done with the consent of the elderly members of the family.Last year I made my marriage very special with the help of wedding planner"itheewedchapel".For more info you can visithttp://www.itheewedchapel.com/ceremony-style.aspx
Why do people hold contrasting values to arranged marriages?
arranged marriages stands good because both the side parents ,relatives and friends take part in betrothal traditionally/religiously. in case of any dispute or misunderstanding the elderly guidance and support will bring reunion of couple.
What is a good arranged marriage anime?
Try Seto no Hanayome, for a comedy anime.
Love marriages good or bad?
Marriages that started out with a couple in love can be good or bad, depending on the couple. Same thing goes for arranged marriages. And both have their advantages and disadvantages. Falling in love with someone can be the most wonderful feeling in the world, but if that person breaks your heart, it can also be the worst feeling in the world.
How do people do with same-sex marriage?
So far, so good. The sky has not parts of the world where same-sex marriage has been legalized. There is no reason to believe that the success rate of same-sex marriages should be significantly different that that of opposite-sex marriages.
Do they have arranged marriages in israel?
Not always.Another answer:There are various levels of "arranged". To have a marriage in which the young couple had no say in it (as is done in certain other cultures) is rare in Judaism, since the Halakha forbids it. Rather, the parents and matchmaker try to present their son/daughter with what they believe will be a good spouse; and the final decision is in the hands of the youngsters themselves. It is well-known that divorce rates are lower in these circumstances.
