Anger. Often it's a response to feelings of rejection, equating the abuse with a sense of being emotionally rejected by the abuser. Anger is a common response by a depressed individual. Especially depressed males.
meeting the wrong guys
yea theyre best friends!theyre always doing stuff together
Call the cops and tell them to come and get him/her. Tell them what they are doing to you.
Don't ever count on an abuser 'gone for good.' He may well get tired of whatever he is doing or whomever he is seeing and be back! The best thing you can do is go to your local Abused Women's Center and ask for help in your situation. The counselors are there to offer good advice as to how to handle your abuser; your legal rights and if need be a safe place to go too called a 'transition house' if it is necessary.
No it's not common, but many women just simply come to the end of their rope and depression sets in. When this happens she has an attitude that she simply doesn't care if she lives or dies and believe it or not that's when the survival instincts kick in and she can go after her abuser. Fighting back against your abuser isn't a smart thing to do (the woman will often lose) and the best thing is, to phone the "Abused Women's Center" to get the support you need. They provide you with a place to stay (safe house) counseling, legal help, etc. It's a waste of time fighting an abuser and many women are killed over a lot less than this. Good luck Marcy It seems a little wreckless to me. I suggest that it would be far more intelligent to just get away from the abuser. You don't need him to be in your life at all.
By taking it to someone who knows what theyre doing
Because TV says whatever theyre doing for them. In a book they have to do it themselves. (im not saying theyre lazy though...)
She means she is not getting any enjoyment being with you. It's best you talk it out with her on why she feels this way, and see if there is anything you and/or she is or isn't doing that gives her this feeling.
theyre not, the tea party is just a bunch of hics who think theyre doing something for this country. remember, firearms for freedom!
Depends on what kind on what kind of activity theyre doing, like flying, eating or reprocducing.
they are rumored to be making a new album, but im not for sure. right now theyre just doing concerts and tours etc
It's possible this could happen and for two reasons: #1 the victim may not know they are actually doing it (built up anger can do strange things to a person) #2 they've had enough, but aren't quite ready to put their feet out into an uncertain future. Many of us do things unconsciously and sometimes we never pick up on it. It depends on the abuser. If he's mentally abusive this is bad enough and you'll never win in the verbal game of abuse with them (because the victim isn't abusive by nature) and some abusers are very physical and if their victim stands up to them they can become very enraged (possibly even murder in some cases) at the thought of "How dare this lower than me person talk to me in this manner." Abusers think they have all the answers, that they are controlling everything and most (especially men) feel that they own the home, vehicles, and anything else and they can see fit to do as they wish to the victim, the children and yes, even the family pet. It isn't a good idea for the victim to engage in enraging the abuser anymore than they are. Abusers can turn like rattle snakes. It's best for the victim to go to the Abused Women's Center when her abuser is at work, and stay there! They will give a great deal of support and help the person get on their feet and away from their abuser. Merry Christmas Marcy "How common is it for someone who is abused to start doing things intentionally that they know will make the abuser angry as a way of proving that they are not the problem and if so should they?" Good question. Thus far my legitimate complaints have fallen upon deaf ears. But I don't fear him or them. In truth last night i had dream about wearing boxig gloves and kickig his butt and winning while on the beach. I gave him two black eyes. I actually won. Merry Xmas to all and happy new year (smile)