Why do compulsive liars lie about affairs?

Answer 1

(Moved from the discussion page) I'm a liar. i dont know if i can be called a compulsive liar, or something else. I am 30, and the first time i lied that i can remember was in 1st grade. i lost a school book and i lied to my teacher about it for a whole year, don't know why, it seems so stupid now. i think i acted sick several times during that year, just not to be confronted by my teacher. finally, when my parents found out in parents day that there was some problem, the teacher just gave me a new book and it was over. and if i remember correctly, my parents laughed it all off. i didn't have a miserable childhood, my parents loved me a lot and gave me everything, but i think i know where it started: my mom was a liar, and she always lied to my father about small things. i dont know if why she did it, and if she had this problem before being with him. my father had a very short temper, and i think my mother was afraid of telling him the truth about many things in fear of him shouting. i inherited this - as a child i was afraid of my father's responses, though he was always quick to relax, but i guess as a child you don't think of your father as an ordinary person, and u don't understand that his short temper is his problem and that he has his own issues. i guess i learned my mother's coping method, though i don't remember ever hearing her lie about big things. she also took me in in some of her lies to my father - by telling me to not tell my father this and that, etc., and this probably made things worse for me. the next thing i remember is when i was at high school. i was a very good student, and was considered a "genius" by the people in my class and by the teachers. everything came to me easily in school years, i didn't have to study at all and got excellent grades. it was a problem when i got lost in math in the last two years, and started skipping classes because i didn't know the material and was afraid to ask, and didn't make homework, and two months before the final exams i didn't know how im going to make it. luckily for me, my teacher (who didn't like me naturally) told my mother at parents day about my problem and my mother sent me to a private tutor and i managed to fill in the gaps and get a nice grade at the exams. in the pre-college exams i got an amazing grade, in the top half percent of the population, so i could study anything i wanted. i was abroad for a couple of years - and when i came back it was the next time i remember lying - i told my friends i had a lot of sex, which i haven't done at all. i also had a girlfriend abroad which i lied to - about my sexual experience, about working there and more things. when i came back i started studying in college, but sure enough, just like it was in math in high school, i started trailing immediately, didn't do my homework and stopped arriving, without telling anyone to this day about it. for the next couple of years i told everyone i was studying, and made a lot of lies about the daily college days, including to my parents who paid most of the tuition (for nothing) and to my friends. a year after quitting i started a job. the next year, i met a girl and we fell in love and moved in together. i told her these lies that i live on my own because it seemed more appealing in my mind, and it became more and more elaborated until one day when i was at work she went with my sister somewhere and my sister told her that wasn't true. my girlfriend called me histerically and was so disappointed, because i lied and because she came out as a fool, and she swore me not to lie to her again. afterwards, i got promoted at work and things were pretty good. i still didn't tell her or anybody else about me dropping out of college, but i was feeling that i was on the right career path and that the college issue won't be significant. i finally asked her to marry me and we had it all arranged, but a month before the wedding i was fired. i was getting tired of this place, which led me to prefer anything else to being in the office - including assisting her in her studies and just catching a nap outside of work. i told her i was fired, which was very hard for me to do, but i didn't tell her the reason as to not make her feel guilty. she was very loving and encouraging and we married and went on a holiday. when we came back, it became clear that she wants to have her own business and i found it very exciting to join her and build it together. while she wanted it very much, i told her i would find a job to support us while she builds the business and when the time is right, i'll join her. but i didn't really do anything in that direction - i was afraid that my lack of college degree and my firing circumstances would disqualify me for any job, and i was also hoping that the business will grow and i'd be able to work in it with her full time. i didn't share my feelings with her, because she didn't know about my college history and why i was fired, and i thought i'd put extra pressure on her if i ... 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Answer 2

It is when you can't stop lying, even if you don't want to lie.
A compulsive liar is someone who can't resist lying, even when there is no reson to.

Answer 3

Compulsive liars will lie about everything, even what they had for breakfast.

Answer 4

Because they are very insecure people who will do antyhing to present themselves better than they really are. Therefor you need lies.

Answer 5

Because they cant stop lying!