Why do men stay in contact with ex girlfriends?

Answer 1

• In these modern times there seems to be a fad of 'being friends' with one's ex. It is not normal and 'ex' means the relationship is over. The only time a person should be with their ex is when they share custody of any children they may have. Men who want to stay in contact with their ex is like having your cake and eating it too. This means if the relationship does not work out with the person they are with they can fall back on their ex and this can be a dangerous situation because some men (not all) will have a sexual relationship with their girlfriend and their ex at the same time and with transmitted sexual diseases at an all time high this is not a good combination and is not fair to the girlfriend. The girlfriend should know she has the power within herself to tell her boyfriend like it is and that she is not willing to share him with his ex no matter if they are just friends or not. If he doesn't change then the girlfriend should move on in her life as she can do much better than staying with him.

Answer 2

There are a thousand reasons a man might call his ex-wife. If there are children or financial matters involved, it's certainly reasonable to expect communication between the ex-spouses. If your husband is calling his ex-wife, you probably don't like it but you need to think about the circumstances. And, is he doing it in your presence or are you finding out about these calls after the fact and in a roundabout way? I don't want to over-analyze it but the previous marriage and divorce situation would offer clues. For example, who filed for the divorce? Was the marriage unhappy and slowly dying or did one of the spouses just suddenly leave and the other partner shocked to find the marriage was gone? Was there a third person involved on either side? Did the husband stray, ask for the divorce, and now feels guilty because there are children involved and he is missing part of their childhood? Did the wife stray and the husband still feels betrayed and can't quite let go? It's very difficult to get into this without knowing more detail but please understand that there really are logical, rational reasons for a man to call his ex-wife. Circumstances dictate whether such calls are warranted in this particular situation.

Answer 3

• Mature and self assured men do not stay in contact with their ex girlfriends and have moved forward in their life. Fortunately, there are more men that move forward than not, but this generation seems to want to stay friends with their exes when they really should be moving forward in their life. Sometimes the young man is afraid to give up their ex just in case their new relationship does not work out.

Answer 4

Most times I guess because they want to keep the door open while seeing what there is around the corner and whether that is better or more suitable. Also because probably they have got used to be and share life with the ex and feel at loss without her... men are lot more needy and easily addictive to a female companion than women...no matter how strange that might sound, but I believe it is so true. Women suffered the loss and the end of a relationship more intensely just after the break ups but then the suffering pays out and the light shines through again, contrary men might go wild and have their freedom fun as soon a relationship ends but then find themselves lost in the deep end a while after. I think you can stay in contact with an ex as long as you feel confident and clear about boundaries... and never forget the reason why the relationship ended.

Answer 5

with ex-wives, no matter how much you choose to ignore it, Love was there once so love is still there now(Just no as bad).

Answer 6

so they know that they will always have someone to talk to if the relationship they are in doesnt work out

Answer 7

they feel like they are doing you a favor by ringing you up when all they really want is to get back in your pants.