Why is it that because two people are married and he falls in love with another woman that the relationship is called cheating and the wife's feelings are more important than the other woman?

Answer 1

When you get married you make a commitment to that person. If you fall in love with another woman in a sense that is cheating because you are breaking that commitment to love and cherish that person. The wife's feelings should be more important than the other woman's because one she is your wife and that should mean something right there and two that when you get married it is a joining of the two people, you become one. So the wife's feelings should be put before the feelings of anyone else. Usually people get married because they love and care for each other. And when you care for someone you put their feelings first.

Also, when you get married not only is it a personal commitment but also a legal one why do you think you need to go to court to get divorced in most cases. It is a written commitment and the vows you make are a binding commitment that is why infidelity will cause you to get nothing in a divorce. Personally if you fall in love with someone else you are in the wrong to begin with you shouldn't put yourself in the position to be unfaithful or fall in love with someone else most people aren't just going to say they are in love by having just a business relationship. And if you are the other woman and you know the man is married you are just as wrong as he is.

When you get married you make a commitment to that person. If you become bored or unhappy with the person you married you should tell them and discuss it openly and honestly, then either decide to make it work with both people doing their best to put things right or decide to end it and separate and then get a divorce. A married man (OR WOMAN) who goes outside the marriage and gets fond of or has sex with someone else is a cheat. They are not being fair to the person they married nor to the other person who is expected to sit around waiting for phone calls or meets when they would be far better off finding an honest person, a more responsible grown up person and a single person!

You also need to look at WHY the man is unhappy in his marriage. He is right to do something about it if he is unhappy, but sneaking around and cheating is childish and cruel and does not solve anything. If the wife is withholding sex and not being nice to him then he will want to have sex with someone else and it is her fault as much as his that the marriage has gone wrong. But he should leave before he finds someone else or sort it out with his wife.

What always exasperates me is that a wife finds out her husband is a user, a fool, childish, selfish and a liar. Yet she still wants him. If the wife does not really love her husband and is taking him for granted then the girlfriend should be put first because she really loves him more than the wife and will make him happier. She would be far more upset if things went wrong than a wife who is only with her husband because of habit or money.