Why won't my narcissist husband get our divorce when he hates me very much?

Answer 1

He doesn't have a new supply source that he can call a sure deal yet. When he does he will leave. But you'll know it's coming because he will be disgusted with you over nothing things. He had to see you as the most horrible woman on the planet. He gets sympathy that way from the new supply and that way she'll feel guilty if she doesn't let him invade in her space when suddenly to her he can no longer tolerate your constant put downs, abusing them, and all your horrible nasty habits. ( they always portray the innocent victim)

Be aware though that your husband isn't just sitting idle tapping his fingers. He is trolling for new supply at AA meetings, the grocery store, at his job if he has one, your child's school, your friends even. The other thing is trust nothing he tells you. Start looking for hidden accounts. Run a credit report on both of you. Fix what's wrong with yours. Know your husband will sabotage your finances and do shady things well before walking out. He will be completely set up when he walks but he will tell you he isn't working. He will tell you he isn't eating he has no money. He will want you to think he is hungry just like you are. In fact he eats out often and at nice restaurants. Does he walk your dog? Often these serial cheaters will have some booty call near by to soothe them when things get heated up between you two. In other words if you dare ask him a question that requires him to answer. Anytime you put him on the spot he will go walk the dog. DO NOT what ever you do LET ON YOU ARE ON TO HIM. He will deny anything is going on. He will call you crazy and make you not trust your GUT. Trust your GUT TOTALLY. Your gut will not fail you if you are with open eyes and the best way to convince yourself is a totally hidden journal of each day what you did what he did. What he said what was going on at time. Who was around. If he went somewhere write it down. Time gone.write down what he told you about being gone. What you were doing who you with. Any strange things. All of it. In time you will start to see what's going on. You'll catch him in a lot of lies. But don't tell him you just caught him. Write it down. Then plan a trip to your moms. Wrote mom a handwritten letter telling her not to blow it that you using seeing her to catch your husband. Remember your cell phone your calls pictures texts are not private. Many men like your husband know exactly where their wives are at all times. They bug their wives phones with spyware. They gps their wives cars. Have a friend pick you up and actually drop you at airport or train station but leave your phone at home. Rent a cheap car. Stop at Walmart for throw away phone. One woman I talked to threw her phone in someone's trunk when they not looking. Knowing they driving to Oregon. She actually caught her husband with his male lover in their bedroom but snapped pics and left to vomit. Only to return in evening to see her best friend show up at her house and kissing on her husband. She couldn't stand it and knocked on door. No one answered so she called 911 and said she heard a woman scream and gunshots and gave her address. She also said that the man who lives at the address is a small time meth dealer. While cops had them both outside in front yard as other officers searching the house the wife wandered onto the lawn and snapped a photo she plastered on Facebook and the cheater website. Believe me he is stashing money away. Start getting cash back every time it's offered to you. Be sly about all that you are doing. These men can get violent when they realize their mask has slipped and you know what he is doing.