Why would an intelligent socially adept professional person fall for a narcissist?

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Well, it seems that you were looking for someone that exuded confidence which alot of narcissist do. Later, on it was that you discovered this trait. You need to ask yourself what you actually get out of the relationship and if at the end of the day you feel safisfied and fulfilled with this person. If there is any doubt then look elsewhere or you will be sucked into the dark world of this person and then it will be even harder to get out. You deserve a person that can give you 100% of themselves at all times not someone who is into themselves 100%.... Because they are brilliant at masking who they are in the beginning. I fell for it and match your description. I am considering intelligent, extremely intuitive/perceptive, have friends who ask me to 'read' the men they are dating, etc.. I NEVER thought I would fall for someone like this, but I did. He found my weaknesses early on and used them to his advantage. If you are questioning your judgment, intelligence, etc. - try not to. Even the most adept and brilliant psychologists/counselors can overlook an N. The bigger question is - will you stay? It is unlikely a professional (smart), socially adept person will 'stay' in such a situation. It begins to become absolutely foolish. I know when I was with him, and even when I 'just considered' staying with him, I felt my self-respect and self-esteem being drained. I knew I deserved better intellectually even though I had some psychological work to do to believe this on ALL levels. 'Anyone' can fall if they don't know the signs (I do now) and assume the best in people. It's hard to believe the truth that is behind the facade. Best wishes, AlwaysLearning