You broke up with your boyfriend out of fear of getting hurt and now you have the confidence to make it work but he does not trust you anymore so how can you regain his trust?

The lack of communication causes more problems in this world than anything else. You obviously didn't communicate your feelings very well when you broke up with him. Phone him and see if he will at least meet with you because you would at least like the opportunity to explain what you were going through. Hopefully he will say yes. If he says no then you are going to have to walk away and move on with your life. At least you have learned one thing .... communication is the key to better relationships and less stress in your life.

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It has been a year already and I have made clumsy attempts to tell him but chickened-out each time because of my pride-- I have always been at the receiving end of every relationship and this was the first time I had to make any kind of effort-- but this separation allowed me to think about what love is --- I do love this person---but I feel I have only given him reason to move away from me--- I am not sure if he will agree to meet me anymore--- he has already given me several opportunities and I failed to be honest with him each time.

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A person has to use pride sparingly. Pride comes with who you are and what good things you stand up for. It's pride in your country, your family, friends, etc. Your pride is a stubborn and foolish one and look what it has cost you. This type of pride could be why you are having so many problems in your life. Unless you learn to face your ghosts or take responsibility for your own actions then you will be successful at very little.

If you can't be honest and feel you can't tell your ex boyfriend why you had to leave and that sometimes people need space to straighten themselves out and you feel badly for the lack of communication, then you don't deserve to be in a relationship because COMMUNICATION is everything and that is more important than even sex. Anyone can have sex, but communication is what makes the world go round. By not being able to keep these appointments with him is proving to yourself you have learned nothing from past mistakes.

If you love this young man then ditch the pride; be responsible for your actions and try meeting with him one more time and THIS TIME KEEP THE APPOINTMENT! If not you'll live with regrets.

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