Your boyfriend talks to other girls online in a flirting manner but he tells you he loves you and is happy with you how should you confront him without making things worse?

About five years ago I dated a guy just like that and parted with him as friends. He too flirted on line and called and talked to women and often denied it or hide it from me. He was never open or honest about it.

Some men get such a kick out of turning women on and being in control of the beginning of a relationship where they think nothing other then he's a prince. Even women are guilty of searching out the newness of a relationship such as this to enjoy that feeling we have all had at one time or another with our current loves or past loves.

From personal experience I would say that if it really bothers you that much your best option is to change you and not try to change that person. If you really trust him then let it go.

My choice was to remove myself from the situation as nicely as possible and move on. I knew in my heart I could not and would not live with someone who did that because the behavior was not acceptible to me. It's not to say they are a bad person but it was my choice to not accept it.

It boils down to the AA slogan for all of us"

"God grant me the serinity to accept the things I cannot change.

The strength to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."

If you can't accept it then change your situation in what ever manner you need to change it to. Don't try to make someone do what you want them to do. It means absolutely nothing. Let them chose what to do. Let them be who they are.

Good luck to you.

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